Sex With Emily

In this episode, I'm busting the biggest myths that are quietly running your relationship and your intimate life… the idea that men want it all the time, that women don't think about it nearly as much, that low libido means something's broken, that toys replace your partner, that your partner should just know what you like without you ever saying it out loud, and more. I'm walking through each one and replacing it with what's actually true, plus practical tools you can use tonight: how scheduling can bring back anticipation instead of killing it, why communication is its own form of intimacy, and how menopause and libido shifts don't have to mean your best years are behind you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily

2:55 Inside the First Live Tour Show

6:43 Myth #1: Men Always Want Sex

8:12 Myth #2: Women Don't Think About Sex

9:47 Myth #3: Low Libido Means Something's Wrong

11:22 Myth #4: Great Sex Should Be Effortless

13:40 Myth #5: Sex Toys Replace Your Partner

15:17 Myth #6: Couples Should Want Sex Equally

16:52 Myth #7: Scheduling Sex Means Trouble

19:43 Myth #8: Using Lube Means Something's Wrong

22:45 Yoga Exercises for Better Sex

25:30 Myth #9: Your Partner Should Know What You Like

26:51 Myth #10: Blue Balls Are a Medical Emergency

27:55 Myth #11: No Erection Means No Attraction

29:04 Height Differences During Doggy Style

30:49 Can Menopause Affect Libido?
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In this episode, somatic practitioner Dolly Josette (aka The Pleasure Muse) is teaching us something that changed my life… how to actually listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us. We walk through a body anchor meditation to help you find your most grounded position, then move into what Dolly calls the vulva hug and cock cradle, a practice that has nothing to do with arousal and everything to do with presence, safety, and building trust with your own body. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, gone numb during sex, or struggled to know what you actually want, this episode is your foundation. Somatic work like this is how we learn to stop performing and start truly feeling, and it's a practice you can bring into your life daily, not just in the bedroom!

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/

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Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily

2:23 Meet Dolly Josette & What Is Somatic Work?

4:07 Embodiment & Sexual Connection

10:56 The Holy Trinity: Body, Mind & Soul

13:07 Body Anchor Meditation

26:22 The Vulva Hug & Cradle Practices

35:08 How This Practice Changes Intimacy

41:32 Overcoming Shame Around Your Body

45:13 How Somatic Work Changes Relationships

49:45 The Power of the Pause

51:17 Why Daily Embodiment Matter
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Throwback to one of my favorite conversations! That "spark" you're chasing? It might not be attraction… it might be a trauma response. I sat down with Dr. Scott Lyons to break down the difference between real, sustainable chemistry and what he calls the "trauma tingle,” that hyper-magnetic pull toward someone that actually has more to do with old wounds than genuine connection. We get into why the honeymoon-phase spark always fades (it's biochemistry, not a sign something's wrong), why "getting the spark back" might be the wrong goal entirely, and how to build the kind of attraction that actually deepens over time instead of burning out. If you've ever wondered whether you're in love or just chasing something familiar, this one's for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

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Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily

3:29 Going On A Lot Of First Dates

7:30 Going On A Second Date?

10:48 Freedom vs. Commitment in Love

12:50 The Age Old Attraction Response

15:03 Discovering Your "Safety Language"

17:38 The Opposite of the "Ick"

22:50 Why Great Sex Changes Over Time

26:06 Are We Asking the Wrong Question?

29:25 Expanding Your Sexual Menu

31:27 Passion vs. Intimacy

34:10 How Couples Keep Desire Alive

39:34 Why Adventure Strengthens Relationships

43:39 The "Trauma Tingle" Explained

45:37 Healthy Attraction vs. Trauma Bonding

49:46 Intensity Isn't Intimacy

54:34 A Simple Way to Recognize Healthy Love

57:01 Why Stable Love Can Feel "Boring"

1:00:23 Final Thoughts on Building Lasting Passion
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Today, we're diving into pillar four of Sex IQ: self-knowledge. This is the pillar that ties everything together, because once you understand your body (embodiment), your health, and how to collaborate with a partner, the real magic happens when you actually know what turns you on. I'm breaking down core erotic desires using Jack Morin's erotic equation: the struggle we overcame plus the triumph on the other side often reveals exactly what turns us on most. We'll talk about the pleasure thieves that block self-knowledge (stress, trauma, and shame), why mindful self-pleasure is one of the fastest paths to understanding your own arousal, and how naming what you want to feel during sex changes everything about how you ask for it. If you've ever felt like you're just going through the motions in bed, this episode is your permission slip to get curious about yourself again.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

Chapters:

0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily

2:51 The Fourth Pillar of Sex IQ: Self-Knowledge

3:36 Breathing Exercise

4:23 What Self-Knowledge Really Mean?

6:23 Why Self-Pleasure Is the Key to Self-Discovery

7:06 Your Core Desires

8:09 Common Struggles That Shape Your Turn-Ons

13:55 Examples of Core Desires

16:57 What Your Fantasies Reveal About You

18:03 The Pleasure Thieves

20:17 How to Put Self-Knowledge Into Practice

24:06 Weekly Self-Knowledge Action Steps

26:27 Q&A: Rebuilding Trust After a Broken Boundary

31:43 Final Thoughts
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In this episode, I'm going back to my 20s and telling you everything I wish someone had told me about sex back then. The reality is that almost nobody has a clue in their 20s, and we're all just figuring it out together. I talk about why I confused being validated with actually being desired, why I thought pleasure was someone else's job instead of my own responsibility, and how much shame was quietly running my entire sex life. I also get into why attraction alone was never enough to sustain a relationship, why stress and anxiety were wrecking my desire, and why confidence in the bedroom comes from taking action, not the other way around. If you're in your 20s trying to figure this all out, or you're older and realizing you're still carrying some of these same beliefs, this episode is for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction: Best Sex Ever Tour Announcement

00:52 10 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex in My 20s

01:46 Setting the Scene: Emily's Sex Life in Her 20s

05:03 #1: Everyone Else Seemed to Know What They Were Doing

08:43 #2: I Thought Good Sex Should Happen Naturally

10:34 #3: I Thought Attraction Was Enough

11:53 #4: Pleasure Is Your Own Responsibility

14:38 #5: Confusing Validation With Desire

16:23 #6: Sex as Performance vs. Being Present

18:47 #7: How Stress and Anxiety Affect Desire

23:24 Do Generations Experience Sex Differently?

25:30 #8: Everyone's Erotic Blueprint Is Different

27:35 Boundaries, Attraction & What Changes With Age

33:13 #9: How Shame Was Driving My Decisions

39:03 #10: Confidence Comes From Taking Action

40:41 Final Thoughts
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