Sex With Emily

Solo anal play might be the most misunderstood sex act out there, and I’m done letting shame, myths, and bad porn narratives keep you from one of the most pleasurable things you can do for yourself. Whether you're completely new to anal or just looking for a place to finally start, this episode is your no-judgment, fully practical guide to exploring on your own terms.

From the anatomy behind why it actually feels so good (yes, for all genitals) to the exact tools, lube, and prep you need to get started safely, I break it all down with zero shame and a lot of science. Plus, I answer real listener questions about positioning, bringing it up with a partner, and the mess concerns that are quietly keeping most people from ever trying.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why anal stimulation can unlock full-body orgasms for every anatomy — and the nerve science that explains it

• The three biggest anal myths (and why they're completely wrong)

• Exactly how to prep, what to buy, and how to start — so your first experience is actually pleasurable

This Episode is sponsored by LELO SWITCH – https://lelo.to/aGecd (Use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off!)

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Why Try Solo Anal Play? Benefits for All Bodies

2:20 - Prostate Pleasure 101 (Penis Owners)

3:16 - Anal Orgasms & Nerve Endings (Vulva Owners)

5:48 - Body Acceptance & Releasing Shame Around Anal

6:52 - Busting Myth #1: Does Anal Affect Your Sexuality?

8:21 - Busting Myth #2: Anal Requires Preparation, Not Spontaneity

10:41 - How to Start: Anal Training & Finger Exploration

11:51 - Toy Recommendations by Anatomy

16:06 - Lube Guide: Silicone vs. Water-Based

18:05 - Q&A: Your Anal Questions Answered
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After years of thinking love wasn't in the cards, Golden Globe, Emmy and Academy Award winning actor Halle Berry stopped chasing and that's exactly when everything changed. In this live conversation from Eudemonia, Halle and I get into what it really takes to have a loving connection and  incredible sex in your 50s, why she thought her partner gave her herpes (spoiler: it was perimenopause), and how becoming whole on her own finally attracted the relationship she'd always wanted.

From faking multiple orgasms in her 20s to now having no problem telling her partner exactly what she needs, Halle shares why the "zero fucks to give" era might just be the sexiest time of a woman's life. She also opens up about misdiagnosis, advocating for women's health in Washington, and why she's throwing herself a "siesta" party when she officially hits menopause in March.

Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube! 

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why chasing a relationship kept Halle attracting the wrong partners—and what shifted when she finally prioritized herself

 • How vaginal dryness got misdiagnosed as herpes and Sjögren's disease, and what that taught her about the gaps in women's healthcare

 • The permission slip every woman needs to stop performing in bed and start asking for what actually feels good

More Halle Berry:

• Instagram 

• Respin by Halle Berry 

Eudēmonia Summit:

•  Website 

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

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Chapters:

00:00 - Chapter Title

00:09 - Halle Berry Admits She Used to Fake Orgasms

02:12 - Love, Divorce, and Lessons After Three Marriages

04:26 - Why She Slept With Men on the First Night

07:03 - The Health Scare That Changed Her Intimacy

07:46 - Being Misdiagnosed With Herpes

09:11 - Realizing She Was in Perimenopause

10:36 - How Sex Changed in Her 50s

13:03 - Why So Many Women Fake It

14:08 - The Unrealistic Sex Standards from Porn

17:08 - Learning You Can Say No to Sex

26:32 - The Truth About Multiple Orgasms

29:31 - Why She Launched Respin

30:50 - The Menopause Healthcare Gap
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Blood flow might not sound sexy, but it’s the fuel behind satisfying sex.

In this live episode from the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas, I sit down with certified nurse practitioner and ⁠Medical Director at GAINSWave, Chrislyn Chaloupka, to discuss how GAINSWave’s non-invasive regenerative therapy is reshaping sexual wellness by addressing root causes rather than simply masking symptoms.

We dive into why your body might not be responding the way it used to, from erections that fade under pressure to that frustrating gap between wanting sex and your body just not cooperating.

Chrislyn breaks down how this painless 15-minute treatment works (that I even tried myself), and we get real about everything from porn-induced desensitization to why erectile challenges can actually be your heart trying to tell you something important.

Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube! 

What you'll learn:

 • Why "just relax and use more lube" isn't solving your arousal problems—and what actually will

 • How shockwave therapy can help with everything from weak orgasms to stress urinary incontinence (yes, the sneeze-and-pee situation)

 • The psychological factors that can make even the best physical treatments fail until you address the deeper story

This Episode is sponsored by Gainswave. Go to gainswave.com and find a provider near you to regain your freedom and pleasure in the bedroom.This episode was recorded live at the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas 2025. 

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More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:07 - What Is A4M & Why Emily Was There

3:16 - Meet Guest Chrysen Chalupka: Nurse Practitioner & Regenerative Medicine Expert

12:17 - Regenerative Medicine Explained: Treating Root Causes, Not Symptoms

13:34 - What Is Shockwave Therapy & How Does It Actually Work

15:28 - The GainsWave Treatment: What It Feels Like (Emily's Experience)

17:03 - Who Benefits Most: Women, Pain, Dryness & Orgasm Issues

23:28 - Shockwave for Men: Erections, Blood Flow & Hidden Heart Health Warnings

27:09 - The Psychology of Sexual Dysfunction: When It's Not Just Physical

28:52 - Porn, Masturbation & Desensitization: The Conversation Nobody's Having

32:57 - Beyond Sexual Health: Treating Joints, Injuries & Chronic Pain with Shockwave

35:30 - How to Find a GainsWave Provider Near You
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Sexting sounds simple until you're actually staring at your phone, cursor blinking, wondering if what you're about to send is hot or just... weird. In this episode, I'm giving you the full breakdown on how to text dirty with confidence—because good sexting is really just foreplay with a keyboard.

I'm answering your questions about everything from how to build tension with something as small as three dots, to what to do when your partner wants to sext around the clock but you're just not feeling it. Plus, I'm sharing some of the hottest sexts the Sex With Emily community has ever received (you asked, you delivered, and wow).

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • The "past and future" technique that makes writing a sext way less intimidating—and way more effective

 • What to say when your long-distance partner's sexting pace doesn't match yours (hint: you're allowed to set your own rhythm)

 • How sexting can actually help you communicate desires that feel too awkward to say face-to-face

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:06 - The "past and future" rule for writing sexts

4:43 - How to use the three dots to build tension

5:34 - Nude photo tips: angles, lighting & confidence

7:35 - Protecting your nudes on Apple & Google

8:41 - The hottest sexts you've sent (community submissions)

10:18 - How to find your dirty talk voice

12:48 - Flirting with a coworker over Zoom & Slack

15:04 - Keeping sexts private when kids use your devices

16:08 - When your partner's masturbation habits change

19:16 - Mismatched sexting energy in long distance

22:35 - Rebuilding trust after infidelity
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Whether you're questioning who you're attracted to or wondering why someone incredible on paper leaves you feeling nothing below the waist, you're not alone. In this episode, I unpack the messy, confusing space between wanting someone and wanting to build a life with them—and why those two things don't always line up.

From a woman who's always identified as straight but can't stop fantasizing about women, to a listener who's been getting nothing but one-arm hugs after six dates, I get into the questions most people are too afraid to ask out loud. I also share what the science actually says about attraction—including why your post-gym crush might not be as real as it feels, and what your birth control could be doing to your "type."

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why putting a label on your sexuality might be the last thing you need to do right now—and what to try instead

 • The conversation that can save you months (or years) of wondering where you stand with someone who won't make a move

 • What to do when you and your partner are both waiting for the other person to take control in bed

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Head to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply today!

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction 

1:56 - The science of sexual attraction 

5:01 - You can want someone without wanting to date them 

6:12 - Surprising facts about who you're attracted to (and why) 

9:19 - "Am I bisexual or do I just think women are hot?" 

10:50 - The one-arm hug situation 

15:25 - When your partner's meds killed your sex life 

20:40 - 19 years married and ready to give up 

25:31 - How to rekindle the spark after years together
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