Judson and Brian reunite after three weeks apart. Judson takes a page from our Gay Vacation Anxiety episode to put himself in the best mental and emotional place for two weeks in Provincetown. Brian is forced to admit that he may, in fact, be a Disney Gay. The listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” inspires a conversation about gay community and joy. After the break, Brian shares a series of new ways he and his husband have found to enjoy their open marriage over the previous few weeks. Judson proposes the ideal “house rules” for hookups when sharing a vacation rental with friends. They end by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener expressing concern that there isn’t an overlap in the kinks that interest him and his partner.
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Brian and Judson hookup with DJ James Anthony
Judson is taken out by a stomach bug for a couple of days. Brian attends the sex party he expressed nerves about in last week’s episode. Together, they enjoy a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” with a twist. Brian and Judson are then joined by DJ James Anthony. Known as host of the weekly “Get Into The Groove” on SiriusXM’s Studio 54 channel, and for his monthly Saturday residency at the iconic Eagle in New York City, “James Anthony’s House,” James tours the world as a much sought-after DJ, producer, and remixer. In their chat, James takes Brian and Judson through his lifetime journey playing music for people, starting in his earliest days. They discuss the virtues of daytime dance parties, RuPaul and Michelle Visage’s exhaustive knowledge of dance music, the evolution of James’ 22-year marriage, how he and his husband navigate openness today, his relationship with the apps, and his thoughts on aging. James then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener struggling with the fact that some aspects of his body are attractive to others, but not to himself.
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Brian and Judson talk Spirituality
A gang of neighborhood kids accosts Judson. Brian struggles with parenting solo while his husband is away on business. Judson helps Brian through his anxious feelings about a sex party they both plan to attend. They get a huge laugh from a relatable listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” The two then enter into a deep discussion about spirituality. They talk about how they each define the term, what spiritual practice looks like in their day-to-day lives, their personal histories with religion, and how they balance spirituality with the state of the world today. They close by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener seeking advice on whether or not to ask out the sexy barista who hands him his coffee every morning, and how to do it appropriately.
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Brian and Judson hookup with Derek Frazier
Judson shares movie, book, and live music recommendations for the summer. Brian provides an update to his story about his clash with the principal at his children’s school. They both have much to say about a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” They then welcome out and proud bear Derek Frazier to the podcast. Known as “Big D,” runner-up on the historic 23rd season of “Big Brother,” Derek provides insights into the infamous Cookout Alliance he initiated, ultimately resulting in the show’s first Black winner. He shares intimate details about his weight loss journey, how he struggles to find acceptance in the bear community as a Black man, his plans for Bear Week in Provincetown, MA, his experiences meeting people out at gay bars and on the apps, and how he deals with the online hate that continues to come his way since his time on “Big Brother.” Derek then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who felt envious as a POC in an open relationship with a white man for the attention his ex-boyfriend would get, and wants advice about how to approach the possibility of opening up his next relationship.
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Brian and Judson talk Love
Brian comes to Judson with many questions after a recent threesome. Judson survives a frustrating hookup day. A Hookup of the Week makes it all the way from Germany. The two then enter into a discussion about love. They share how they each fell in love with their husbands, and what that love feels like now. They compare their love for the different members of their families. They talk about what love looks like within friendships. The love chat continues when this week’s Go Ask Your Dad comes from a listener starting the process of opening his relationship, who disagrees with his partner’s belief that love and sex are intrinsically intertwined.
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Dads and Daddies features frank, unrehearsed conversations between one Gen X Dad of two and one Millennial self-identified ‘Daddy,’ with a focus on their personal stories of sex, love and marriage, plus topics spanning parenthood, Daddyhood, family, friendship, identity, money, addiction & recovery, and so many more that reveal the deeply intimate details of what it means to live life as adult gay men today.