Passion Struck with John R. Miles

What if the life you’ve spent years building is actually a masterpiece you’re just a guest in?

In the Purpose by Design series, John R. Miles explores why so many people optimize their lives for everyone else’s convenience while leaving no room for their own aliveness.  Drawing from the cinematic realization of The Truman Show and the real-world social "exile" of Truman Capote, John challenges us to stop performing and start reclaiming our authorship.

John dives into the spotlight moments," that force us to look up, the hidden 'performance contracts' we sign every day, and the three architectural shifts required to build a life of resonance rather than just utility.

Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.

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Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/
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What if optimism isn’t about staying positive but about facing uncertainty with courage?

In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with clinical psychologist and optimism expert Deepika Chopra to explore what she calls real optimism—a science-backed approach to resilience that has far less to do with positive thinking and far more to do with how we relate to possibility. Drawing from her new book The Power of Real Optimism, Deepika challenges one of the biggest myths in modern self-help: that optimism means ignoring hardship or forcing good vibes.

We explore why positivity can sometimes undermine mental health, how the brain acts as an anticipation machine shaping what we expect from the future, and why expectations often influence outcomes more than wishful thinking.

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Connect with John
Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles
Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/
Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/
Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/

Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.

Disclaimer

The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.

What if some of the happiness, belonging, and meaning you’re looking for is hiding in conversations you never start?

In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with social psychologist Nicholas Epley to explore the surprising science of human connection and why we consistently underestimate how much a little more social interaction can improve our lives. Drawing from his new book A Little More Social: How Small Choices Create Big Happiness, Nick reveals a profound paradox: We are wired for connection, yet every day we choose to be less social than we could be. And it may be costing us far more than we realize. 

We explore why talking to strangers often makes us happier than solitude, why we misjudge how others will respond to us, and how tiny “micro choices” of connection can dramatically influence happiness, health, and belonging.

Nick shares the famous train study that launched years of research, the psychology of reciprocity, why we underestimate other people’s kindness, and how loneliness may be fueled not just by disconnection—but by mistaken assumptions about rejection.

We also dive into the hidden ways comparison, adaptation, and secrecy can quietly block gratitude and closeness, and why some of the biggest transformations in life may begin with the smallest social risks.

Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. 

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Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles
Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/
Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/
Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/

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The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.

Does the silence of a new life feel like a threat to your safety?

You’ve finally walked through the threshold, but the "silence" starts to itch. Suddenly, you feel a physical, vibrating urge to go back to being the "Fixer"—the version of you that is useful, busy, and predictable. That urge has a name: Identity Gravity.

In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles explores the "Architecture of the Interior" and the psychological forces that pull us back into old orbits. Drawing on the external market systems discussed with Nobel Laureate Alvin Roth, the psychological flexibility frameworks of Dr. Diana Hill, and the raw "Identity Bankruptcy" of TOMS founder Blake Mycoskie, John explains how to achieve escape velocity.

This is a deep dive into the neurobiology of the Default Mode Network (DMN) and the "Moral Economics" of the self. It’s time to stop being a tool for someone else’s convenience and learn how to break the identity gravity trap. Passion Struck is the #1 personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.

Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/how-to-break-identity-gravity/
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In this episode, John discusses:
The Physics of the Snap-Back: Why your brain treats stillness like a biological threat and how "identity gravity" pulls you back to the grind.
The Static of the DMN: Understanding why high-performers suppress the Default Mode Network and why its "re-boot" feels like anxiety instead of peace.
Identity Bankruptcy: Lessons from Blake Mycoskie on the "gradual disappearance" that happens when your utility replaces your identity.
The Repugnant Transaction of Being: Why sitting still feels like a moral betrayal when you’ve internalized a market that only values "doing."
The Commoditized Human: Breaking the feedback loop that turns you into an interchangeable tool rather than an essential presence.
The Boundary ADR: Using "Architectural Decision Records" to protect your time and reclaim the monopoly of your own presence.
Achieving Escape Velocity: The three pillars of architectural rigor needed to break the snap-back effect and stay in your new orbit.
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The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.

Connect with John
Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles
Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/
Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/
Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/

Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.

Disclaimer

The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.

What if the problem isn’t time management, but how you manage your energy?In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with psychologist Diana Hill to explore why energy management often matters more than time management—and how psychological flexibility can help you focus your effort on what truly matters.Drawing from her new book, Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most, Diana shares a transformative idea: Burnout often stems from directing your energy in ways misaligned with your values.We explore why high achievers often feel drained despite being productive, how “genius energy” can become either a strength or a liability, and how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy offers practical tools for shifting from urgency-driven striving to values-based action.We also dive into Diana’s powerful metaphors—from birds flying into windows to living from the back of the heart—and how small shifts in awareness can open entirely new ways of living.If you’ve ever felt exhausted while doing all the “right” things… this conversation will help you rethink effort itself.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/how-to-manage-energy-not-time-wise-effort/Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.netThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code PASSION at huel.com/passion. New Customers Only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show!Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why managing energy often matters more than managing time
How psychological flexibility helps prevent burnout
What Diana Hill means by Wise Effort—and how to practice it
How to identify when your strengths are becoming liabilities
The three-step method: Get Curious, Open Up, and Refocus
How “genius energy” can help you align effort with your deepest values
Why the path forward may require looking for a different open door—not flying harder at the same window
Support the MovementLiving intentionally starts with directing your energy toward what matters.Explore tools, reflections, and frameworks to help you build an ignited life: https://www.theignitedlife.netDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.

Connect with John
Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles
Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/
Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/
Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/

Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.

Disclaimer

The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.