Live Well Be Well with Sarah Ann Macklin | Health, Lifestyle, Nutrition

This week’s Live Well Be Well Moment is with Matt Haig, bestselling author and mental health advocate.

Matt opens up about his shoplifting addiction as a teenager, explaining how it was never about the things he stole, but the dopamine hit, and how getting arrested at 16 was what finally stopped him.

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This week’s Live Well Be Well Moment is with Silva Neves, an accredited psychosexual and relationship therapist.
Silva unpacks the manosphere, explaining why it’s less about ideology and more about money and fear, before sharing his clinical perspective on Bonnie Blue and the extreme end of the shame-free spectrum.

My book ‘Healthy Shouldn’t Be This Hard’:
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This week I’m joined by Frank Anderson, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, psychotherapist and one of the leading voices in trauma treatment, for a conversation that goes far beyond traditional therapy.

What we explore together:

• Why trauma treatment was never meant to be a single method, and what 11 years of psychoanalysis taught him about its limits

• The viral “does trauma live in the brain or the body” debate, and what his close friend Bessel van der Kolk actually meant by The Body Keeps the Score

• Why attraction is often about unhealed wounding, not love, and how it shaped his own first marriage

• What it actually looks like to heal trauma through the body, not just by talking about it

• Why he believes we’re entering “the era of the body,” and what that means for AI and disconnection

Love, Sarah Ann 💛
My book, Healthy Shouldn’t Be This Hard:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Healthy-Shouldnt-Be-This-Hard-ebook/dp/B0G1DHNRV5

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Frank Anderson:

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Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:40 Why “trauma” is such a loaded word to open with
02:08 Generational reactions to trauma: boomer denial vs. Gen Z over-identification
03:59 Changing the whole paradigm on trauma
05:07 Why therapy alone doesn’t work for trauma
05:25 11 years of psychoanalysis and The Integrated Path to Healing Trauma
08:34 “Trauma is a violation of agency”
09:34 Regaining self-trust and reconnecting to your intuition
10:30 His first marriage and recreating his parents’ dynamic
12:37 Sponsor break: Polsen Health
14:47 People pleasing as a survival strategy, not a trauma response
18:03 The origin of his own people-pleasing: his father, Harvard and “To Be Loved”
22:02 The Bessel van der Kolk “Body Keeps the Score” debate
23:14 Working with celebrity clients in LA, and being attacked for something he didn’t do
27:18 Setting the record straight: it’s not brain OR body, it’s both
29:57 “Nobody’s trauma is the same, it’s like your fingerprint”
32:02 The pushback on his next book’s proposed title
33:52 What resilience actually is, and his own “baby in a crib” trauma
39:54 Blending science and spirituality
42:55 How trauma shows up as physical illness (asthma, migraines, back pain)
45:11 The choking sensation and learning to speak his truth
47:58 Preverbal trauma and healing through the body
50:45 Journaling, the Sarno method, and a client physically releasing repressed rage
56:17 Why trauma memories are stored differently (Ruth Lanius)
57:34 Why Frank won’t do a session without movement
58:14 Healing chronic pain through surfing and ecstatic dance
59:54 Why therapy’s 50-minutes-a-week format fights neuroplasticity
1:00:38 Healing a jellyfish-sting trauma through surfing after the Palisades fire
1:03:11 Trauma blocks love, and love blocks trauma
1:04:28 Why we’re attracted to people with the same wound
1:08:16 “Love is my husband”: 27 years together
1:16:27 Healthy love, nervous systems, and the difference between an emotion and a reaction
1:23:18 Internal Family Systems and the difference between self and soul
1:29:15 Why trauma resists a single definition
1:33:16 Holding uncertainty in the healing process
1:38:28 AI, disconnection, and “the era of the body”
1:45:27 Why Frank moved to Hollywood
1:46:19 Frank’s closing thesis: healing is possible
1:47:44 What does Live Well Be Well mean to you?

This week’s Live Well Be Well Moment is with Matt Haig, bestselling author and mental health advocate.

Matt talks about being diagnosed with ADHD in his mid-40s, why he hates the word “diagnosis,” and the years of feeling like “a weirdo” before he understood why.

My book ‘Healthy Shouldn’t Be This Hard’:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Healthy-Shouldnt-Be-This-Hard-ebook/dp/B0G1DHNRV5

📖 If this resonates, you can join the thousands who read The Compassionate Cure each week.
https://sarahmacklin.substack.com/

Let’s be friends!

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This week’s Live Well Be Well Moment is with Silva Neves, an accredited psychosexual and relationship therapist.

Silva explains why most fantasies, kinks and fetishes are far more normal than we assume, and how it’s actually shame, not the kink itself, that quietly shuts down honest sexual communication in long-term relationships.

My book ‘Healthy Shouldn’t Be This Hard’:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Healthy-Shouldnt-Be-This-Hard-ebook/dp/B0G1DHNRV5

📖 If this resonates, you can join the thousands who read The Compassionate Cure each week.
https://sarahmacklin.substack.com/

Let’s be friends!

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