Emotional Optimism: Living in The Silver Lining Podcast

• E103: Culture Fit

  Does your workplace truly celebrate diversity, or do they pressure people to conform?  Today, we delve into a topic that affects us all – how to build a truly inclusive workplace where everyone can feel a sense of belonging. Get ready for an eye-opening look at why fitting in should never come at the cost of fitting in. Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: The trouble with culture fit The power of belonging Our differences make us strong. Episode Highlights: [00:00] The Power of Belonging Brene Brown's quote, "True belonging doesn't require you to change who you are, it only requires you to be who you are" is something I’ve taken to heart. It emphasizes being your authentic self rather than feeling pressure to change to "fit in" to a company culture.  [00:29] The Trouble with "Culture Fit" The concept of "culture fit" can negatively impact workplace belonging. When you say, "a person doesn't fit in,” it implies someone is somehow not suitable for the company culture. And so, saying an employee "doesn't fit" the culture is antithetical to creating an environment where people can truly belong.  No one is completely homogeneous with their coworkers - instead, the diverse backgrounds and experiences of all individuals is what makes a team dynamic and innovative.  Rather than focusing on whether someone conforms to perceived cultural norms, companies should embrace the "motley crew" of people they employ. By hiring for skills and character over superficial "fit," workplaces can avoid exclusionary practices and ensure people feel comfortable simply being their authentic selves. [00:50] The Wisdom of Many Rather than focusing on hiring or promoting only those who seem inherently "smart," the diversity of perspectives on a team is what generates true intelligence. It's the "sum of the totality" or collective knowledge, skills, experiences and backgrounds that allows a group to be smarter than one.

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• E102: Finding Your People

  Coming out can be an incredibly challenging experience for many people, often resulting in being estranged from loved ones who have difficulty accepting their sexuality or gender identity. When I came out, I faced rejection from my mother who didn't understand at first. The isolation of that period was incredibly difficult to go through alone. However, moving to a new city where I could be myself without judgment was truly transformative. In San Francisco, I instantly found a community of LGBTQ allies who understood what I had been through. Surrounding myself with that support allowed me to heal and move forward into a new chapter of acceptance. Whether it's close friends, an LGBTQ center, or just moving to a more welcoming environment –- your people are out there! Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: Personal story of coming out experience and being estranged from mother Importance of having a support system of friends, community, or LGBTQ center How moving to San Francisco provided a "playground" and instant friends Episode Highlights: [00:07] The Difficulty of Coming OutIt was a challenging experience of coming out to my mother. She didn't understand my sexuality at first and saw it only as a sexual thing, rather than an integral part of who I wasthey are. This lack of acceptance led us to become estranged from each other for some time. The isolation of this period was undoubtedly difficult to go through alone. However, moving to a new city eventually provided a fresh start as well as a place where we could fully be ourselves without judgment. [00:35] The Power of CommunityIt’s important to have a strong support system, especially when facing challenges related to one's sexuality or identity. No one needs to go through such difficulties alone. Having even just a few close friends who can understand and empathize with what someone is experiencing makes a huge difference. Beyond close friendships, being involved with the local LGBTQ community can help expand one's circle of support. For instance, community centers have amazing resources for people to connect with others. And there, they can gain acceptance and they can seek advice so they feel less isolated in their journey. And so, having that kind of community plays a vital role in feeling less alone and more empowered when navigating life's hardships. [00:55] A Place to Be FreeMoving to San Francisco after a difficult “coming out” experience was truly transformative. The city was like a "playground" where I suddenly felt free to fully embrace my identity without judgment or constraints. It was easy to instantly connect with new friends who genuinely understood what I had been through. Surrounding myself with an encouraging community in a new home allowed me to heal from the isolation and start anew. Even just relocating to a more accepting environment can provide the safe space one needs to grow into their authentic self after facing rejection, allowing you to playfully move forward from a painful past into an optimistic future.

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• E101: The Capacity to Love is at the Core of our Success

  What kind of leader do you aspire to be? In our new podcast episode, we discuss the power of leading with love. Leaders who embody love not only inspire their teams but also foster environments of trust and respect.  Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: Embracing love as a leadership quality The way we love others is the way we were loved The power of community Episode Highlights: [00:13] Embracing Love as a Leadership Quality Leaders who embody love, who consistently demonstrate it in their actions and interactions, and possess the ability to both give and receive love, are the ones we aspire to follow. They not only represent the leadership of today but also set the standard for the leaders of tomorrow. [00:42] The Reflection of Love: From Childhood to Success in Leadership Our approach to expressing love is often a reflection of how we were loved during our formative years. This early experience serves as a foundation for how we either extend love to others or withhold it. By introspectively examining how our specific needs were met during childhood, we can better understand our own methods of caring for others. The way we attend to the specific needs of individuals within our team or company is crucial. Emphasizing once more, the capacity to love is fundamental to our success as human beings. [02:00] The Importance of Community In times past, we grew up in close-knit communities or tribes, where our needs were met by various members. However, modern society has shifted away from this communal living, leaving many feeling isolated and disconnected, except perhaps in workplaces, religious gatherings, or sports teams. This isolation makes us vulnerable. Yet, love serves as a “super glue,” binding us together. Our capacity to love varies based on our childhood experiences of love and care, or lack thereof, which can cause trauma. Nevertheless, we all possess the potential to embrace and embody love.

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• E100: Rooting Culture in Kind Candor

  In today's episode, we delve into the concept of "kind candor" and its pivotal role in fostering a positive organizational culture. It’s an innovative approach that combines honesty with kindness when giving feedback to employees. By providing clear, specific, current, and actionable feedback, we enable employees to improve without feeling undermined.  The ultimate objective of kind candor is to cultivate an environment of trust where employees are receptive to feedback, seeing it as an opportunity for growth and betterment in their roles. Tune in to learn more about how this strategy can revolutionize your workplace dynamics. Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: Background on moving to a culture of "kind candor"  Five principles of kind candor: kind, clear, specific, current, actionable Examples of giving feedback using kind candor approach The goal of kind candor Episode Highlights: [00:01] Moving from a Kind Culture to a Culture of Kind Candor Our company's culture has focused on being kind for the past 14 years. This longstanding emphasis on kindness is something employees can rely on and feel they will be treated well. On the other hand, kind candor builds upon this existing kind culture by allowing for honest truths, or feedback, to be given to employees in order to help them improve. However, this feedback is done in a kind manner since the culture already emphasizes kindness. [01:16] The Five Principles of Kind Candor The five principles of kind candor are: Be kind. Be clear. Be specific. Be current. Be actionable. For example, an employee made multiple mistakes.  Point out the specific errors. Offer to work with the employee for free for the next 30 days to ensure the issue does not happen again. This offers clear, specific, current feedback on the mistakes, while taking an actionable approach to helping the employee improve through additional support, all delivered kindly. [02:09] The Goal of Kind Candor The purpose of kind candor is to help employees grow in their roles, not to punish them for mistakes. The feedback process is intended to build people up by giving guidance, rather than tearing them down or putting them on the defensive. When employees feel supported rather than attacked, they will be more open to feedback and improve based on the guidance. By implementing those five principles, you’re able to cultivate an environment where employees feel safe improving through honest discussions, rather than avoiding feedback out of fear.

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• E99: Don’t be Afraid to Give Yourself an F

  Ever graded your own performance? In our new episode, we shed light on a unique exercise assigned  by Gary that had us all doing just that. We're sharing a fascinating leadership lesson: the power of self-graded performance. Hear how our team faced their weaknesses head-on to drive growth and collaboration. Discover how this transparency is steering us towards becoming the greatest organization in history. Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: Gary sets homework to self-grade performance Leadership shares grades and growth areas  Focus on partnership and making the organization the greatest Episode Highlights: [00:07] Leadership Shares Grades We took Gary's homework assignment seriously and were honest about our weaknesses and opportunities. By openly admitting to grades of D or F in certain performance areas, it allowed for transparent discussion of improvement needs. This level of authenticity also likely helped foster collaboration, as others could understand how to support their colleagues better based on the self-identified challenges. Overall, it seemed to be a valuable exercise for the leadership to candidly assess their own performance. [01:04] Commitment to Growth We need to commit to spending time with each person every month to build partnership and address issues proactively. The goal is to build stronger partnerships where we can support each other and address any issues before they escalate. Making this commitment shows our willingness to improve in an important area through dedicated relationship building with our colleagues. [01:32] Vision of Being the Greatest  Gary's vision is for the organization to be the greatest in history. Honest self-evaluation, like the exercise Gary assigned, is crucial for achieving this ambitious level of success. By grading ourselves and openly discussing weaknesses and opportunities for growth, the leadership team can effectively work on improvements and partner together to help each other excel. This type of candid evaluation and support among the team will help drive them to reach new heights as an organization.

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