Order of Man

How do you become a better man, lead your family, and navigate life's toughest challenges? Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen explore the power of brotherhood, explaining how meaningful relationships create possibility, accountability, and growth. They answer five listener questions covering freezing during confrontation, leading as a stepfather, helping an adult child become independent, raising resilient children, and moving beyond a troubled past. Along the way, they discuss conflict resolution, personal responsibility, repentance, and the importance of taking action rather than seeking validation. Plus, learn how the Iron Council can help you build stronger connections and become the man you're meant to be.
 
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Episode Introduction and Opening
00:40 - Brotherhood, Purpose, and Meaningful Conversations
01:44 - Why Men Need a Band of Brothers
04:12 - Inspiration: From Motivation to Action
07:08 - The Power of Accountability and Connection
11:16 - Ideas, Growth, and the Value of Brotherhood
12:56 - Self-Determination: Autonomy, Mastery, and Relatedness
17:10 - Handling Confrontation and Protecting Your Family
21:32 - Preparing for Conflict Through Training
29:16 - Leading as a Stepfather
35:54 - Supporting Adult Children Without Enabling Them
43:25 - Raising Resilient and Grateful Children
47:11 - Moving Beyond Your Past and Reputation
48:17 - Why You Don't Need to Prove You've Changed
50:30 - Repentance, Making Amends, and Personal Growth
53:25 - Iron Council: Take Action Before the Year Ends
 
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Most of us were raised to believe that a man is defined by what he's chasing: the money, the woman, the title, the next goal. And for a big part of life, that's exactly right. You should be hungry, and you should be building. But what happens when you get there? When the goal is hit, the purpose fulfills itself, and you're left standing there asking, "Now what?" A lot of men mistake that moment for depression. My guest today says it might actually be a doorway.
David Deida wrote The Way of the Superior Man nearly 30 years ago, and it's shaped a generation of men, including me. His new book, The Man of Zero, picks up where that one left off. We talk about the difference between living from lack and living from fullness, why surrendering to God isn't weakness but a code bigger than you, how a warrior can do hard things with an open heart, and why the less you chase woman and world, the more they come to you. This one goes deep, gentlemen. Let's get into it.
 
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Episode Introduction
01:30 - From Superior Man to Man of Zero
07:36 - Living Without Goals or Motives
14:52 - Understanding the Deep "I"
21:43 - The Awareness of Animals and Humans
26:10 - Neutralizing Threats from a Place of Love
37:54 - The Three Stages of Men's Development
48:34 - Mastering Sexuality and Integrity
54:57 - Confronting Mammalian and Primal Urges
57:07 - Defining Primal Power and Boundless Sex
01:00:26 - Where to Find David's Work
 
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler exposes the trap of "mental masturbation" and breaks down ten ways men deceive themselves into thinking they are engaged in self-care and personal development when they are actually stalling. From buying unused courses and hoarding unread books to hiding behind fitness routines and blaming past trauma, Ryan highlights how noble distractions prevent real growth. 
Learn why true self-work requires action, accountability, and execution rather than endless planning or talking. Tune in to audit your habits, eliminate comfortable excuses, stop going at it alone, and build the frameworks and network needed to step up and become the man you were meant to be.   
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Introduction & Recapping Real Self-Care
02:10 - 1. Buying Courses You Never Use
02:55 - 2. Doom Scrolling & Social Media Traps
04:20 - 3. Waiting Until You're "Ready"
05:35 - 4. Blaming Others & Making Excuses
07:45 - 5. Going At It Alone
09:55 - 6. Collecting Books You Never Read
12:00 - 7. Chasing Bright & Shiny Objects
14:25 - 8. Talking More Than Doing
17:00 - 9. Hiding in the Gym or Office
18:55 - 10. Quitting When Things Get Hard
21:35 - Self-Assessment Exercise & Scoring
23:30 - Frameworks, Networks & The Iron Council
 
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen discuss the value of taking action, embracing imperfection, and questioning the polished images presented on social media. They debate the promise of Elon Musk's flying car before answering listener questions about career opportunities, family priorities, firearm safety, purpose, screen time, and leadership.
They also explore handling envy, rebuilding relationships with adult children, and navigating changing interests with teenage kids. Along the way, Ryan and Kipp share practical advice on setting boundaries, communicating honestly, and becoming more intentional as men, husbands, fathers, and leaders.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Episode Introduction: Opening
00:17 - Embracing Stress and Taking Action
04:48 - Why Being Real Matters More Than Being Perfect
07:50 - Elon Musk's Flying Car: Innovation or Showboating?
16:46 - Career Opportunities vs. Family Roots
26:00 - Firearms, Family Safety, and Marriage
30:14 - Restlessness, Ambition, and Finding Purpose
34:58 - Setting Boundaries With Your Phone
40:57 - Leading Difficult Parents in Youth Sports
46:28 - Envy, Success, and Personal Growth
53:25 - Becoming a Better Grandfather
56:54 - When Your Child Wants a Different Path
01:02:03 - The War Room: Brotherhood and Connection
01:04:34 - Closing Thoughts and Call to Action
 
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Every man will eventually find himself in water over his head. A business that's sinking, a marriage that's struggling, a season of life where you can't see the shore. Most men panic. They thrash around, burn through their energy, and make emotional decisions they regret for years. The men who make it through aren't stronger or more talented. They stay calm, focus on what they can control, and take the next breath.
My guest today, former Navy SEAL Andy Stumpf, knows this better than anyone. We talk about the drownproofing evolution at BUD/S and what it really teaches, why you should have emotional responses but never make emotional decisions, and the "chunking" approach he says is the most useful tool he's ever had. We also get into why most guys who quit regret it for decades, the difference between being a quiet professional and a silent one, why telling the truth is always enough, and what real wealth looks like once you stop chasing more.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 Introduction & Catching Up
01:10 Master Jiu-Jitsu Competitions & Mindset
02:50 The Reality of Jiu-Jitsu Culture
04:15 Demystifying the BUD/S Drownproofing Test
07:15 Emotional Control in Real-World Situations
09:15 Practical Stoicism and Objectivity
12:00 Leveraging Time to Prevent Emotional Decisions
14:15 Technology Usage and Healthy Digital Boundaries
17:00 Gen-Z and Connectivity Fatigue
19:40 The Quiet Professional vs. Silent Professional
21:30 The Importance of Absolute Truth and Integrity
24:00 Taking Personal Ownership vs. Making Excuses
26:50 The Chunking Strategy for Achieving Goals
33:00 Daily Writing Discipline for Drownproof
35:00 Navigating Regret, Failure, and Pivoting
38:30 Talent vs. Relentless Work Ethic
40:25 Mindset for Survival and Overuse Injuries
43:40 Transitioning Out of Military Service & Identity
46:15 Exploring Aviation and Unforeseen Opportunities
49:30 Authentic Relationships vs. Strategic Networking
51:20 Guarding Your Inner Circle
54:00 Snowboarding, Flying, and Lifelong Learning
55:35 The Surprising Origin of Writing Drownproof
57:40 Measuring Impact Beyond Money
59:45 Redefining Wealth and Financial Freedom
 
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready