Keeping It Young

Join Dave and Bethlie as they continue this overcoming series with this first in a two part series about Ovecoming A Bad Marriage.
Part 1
What is a bad marriage? Typically marriages don't start badly We meet
We talk
We spend time together
We "fall in love"
We propose
We make plans
We get married.  

Marriage can become bad It happens in a process of time
We don't love each other anymore
We aren't compatible
We are miserable 
We allow hurt feelings to become BIG problems
We allow little things to become bigger things


What do you do about it? Remember your vows For better or for worse
A verbal commitment to honor God and His Word  Divorce is only permitted in a few select cases
Divorce is rarely the best option
Divorce opens the door to more divorce


Repent at the thought of ending it

Happy Valentine's week!
Join Dave and Bethlie as they discuss how love overcomes!

Every marriage faces misunderstandings, but it's how we handle them that determines whether our relationship thrives or struggles. In this episode of Keeping It Young, Dave and Bethlie share practical, biblical wisdom on overcoming misunderstandings in marriage before they grow into bigger problems.
Learn how to approach difficult conversations with humility and kindness, share your needs in ways your spouse can receive them, and present issues without tearing down your spouse. Dave and Bethlie discuss the difference between minor miscommunications and deeper misunderstandings that need addressing.
Whether you're newlyweds or have been married for decades, this episode provides actionable application for maintaining intimacy, avoiding resentment, and growing together as co-laborers in Christ.
What You'll Learn:
The difference between simple miscommunications and destructive misunderstandings
How to approach issues with humility, kindness, and grace
Why making demands always leads to failure in marriage
How to share needs in a way your spouse can process
Practical communication strategies for husbands and wives
The spiritual foundation for overcoming relational challenges

Episode Notes:
What do we mean by misunderstandings? Desires that aren't met
Issues that won't go away
Failure to meet each others needs

How do you overcome them? Approach issues in a right way Recognize the value of humility and kindness allows us to be vulnerable
allows us to develop intimacy (even if it is small)

Recognize that making demands equal failure These usually are accusations that are selfish
They build walls rather than intimacy


Share your needs in the way that your spouse processes Have a right motivation That your spouse will grow spiritually and have God's blessings

Use a  right presentation Don't belittle
Be honest but build A husband especially needs this: I know you are better than this


For a wife - don't process everything with him 
plan how to be kind and to the point

For a husband Be kind and loving in your words
Ask her to pray about the matter
Share it with her and ask her to consider it and talk about it later
Don't be frustrated by her processing



Determine to grow (prefereably together) Know you you are in Christ
Know who your spouse is in Christ
Know that your are co-laborers for Christ You are in this together
Pray for and help each other

Dave and Bethlie wrap up this first section of the Overcoming series focused on the subject of anger.  We're also celebrating and praising the Lord for our 300th episode!
 
What do you do with a child who has a tendency to anger Correct them Punishment - Every time anger has to be confronted with a negative consequence
We recommend a spanking - every time

Teach them keep it simple
This is wrong
This is how you should respond

Disciple them Your child will need the power of God's Word and God's Spirit
Your child will need to walk with God

Model for them You must do right first
You must learn to have peace in your heart 
You have to model right responses to irritations and issues and life itself

Dave and Bethlie continue their series on overcoming with this part 2 of Overcoming Anger.
How do you overcome anger in your marriage and family Start with confession Eph 4:30. Confess it as sin Control your anger - better - confess your anger
Jesus got angry - you aren't Jesus


Meditate on Scripture Proverbs 15:1-3 A soft/gentle answer turns away wrath Recognize that you are most vulnerable to sin when you are sinned against

the tongue of the wise uses knowledge aright Recognize that your words evidence your heart

the eyes of the Lord are in every place beholding the evil and the good Recognize that God is always present and always holding us accountable 


Proverbs 17:19
Ecclesiastes 9:17

Start with some growth/spiritual steps If you have an anger issue this is the answer You have to grow Confess it as sin
Pray about it every day
Ask forgiveness
Secure accountability
Respond immediately to any failure

You have to sow As you sow the right seeds, you will begin to see fruit

You have to love and honor Your wife matters
Your husband matters


If you are married to someone with an anger problem, this is the answer. You have to grow too In order to confront your spouses anger, you have to put your spiritual house in order essential to have the strength, courage, perspective, and ability to help your spouse

Pray about how to respond in a right way
Practice how to respond in a right way That was a very angry way to say that, can you say it differently so I don't feel so defensive


You have to allow time for fruit Anger is usually a learned behavior that is habitual
When you respond to your spouse with gentleness and a request for a different response, allow your spouse to process that It makes them aware
It give the Spirit time to work




Separate as a last resort. I can't (with a clear conscience) believe that anger is a grounds for divorce
Separation however, may be needed if a man's anger is making him abusive