Keeping It Young

Dave and Bethlie continue their series on overcoming with this part 2 of Overcoming Anger.
How do you overcome anger in your marriage and family Start with confession Eph 4:30. Confess it as sin Control your anger - better - confess your anger
Jesus got angry - you aren't Jesus


Meditate on Scripture Proverbs 15:1-3 A soft/gentle answer turns away wrath Recognize that you are most vulnerable to sin when you are sinned against

the tongue of the wise uses knowledge aright Recognize that your words evidence your heart

the eyes of the Lord are in every place beholding the evil and the good Recognize that God is always present and always holding us accountable 


Proverbs 17:19
Ecclesiastes 9:17

Start with some growth/spiritual steps If you have an anger issue this is the answer You have to grow Confess it as sin
Pray about it every day
Ask forgiveness
Secure accountability
Respond immediately to any failure

You have to sow As you sow the right seeds, you will begin to see fruit

You have to love and honor Your wife matters
Your husband matters


If you are married to someone with an anger problem, this is the answer. You have to grow too In order to confront your spouses anger, you have to put your spiritual house in order essential to have the strength, courage, perspective, and ability to help your spouse

Pray about how to respond in a right way
Practice how to respond in a right way That was a very angry way to say that, can you say it differently so I don't feel so defensive


You have to allow time for fruit Anger is usually a learned behavior that is habitual
When you respond to your spouse with gentleness and a request for a different response, allow your spouse to process that It makes them aware
It give the Spirit time to work




Separate as a last resort. I can't (with a clear conscience) believe that anger is a grounds for divorce
Separation however, may be needed if a man's anger is making him abusive

In this first episode of our Overcoming series, Dave and Bethlie discuss the topic of Anger.  
Overcoming Anger
Quote:  We are a society addicted to outrage. Martin Wickens
In the social media world, outrage generates more "clicks" and ad revenue than anything else
What does the Bible say about anger? Various words are used Anger
Angry
Wrath

Be ye angry and sin not, let not the sun go down on your wrath
Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamour and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice
A soft answer turns away wrath
Fathers provoke not your children to anger

 
What does anger look like? an outward explosion
a simmering resentment
harsh words
Rage
An angry person is churlish, mean, unkind Illustration of Nabal churlish - difficult, fierce, intense
Evil - bad, disagreeable, giving pain, unhappiness, or misery)


An angry person is difficult to get along with
Anger leads to bitterness and poisons an individual as well as everyone close to them - especially one's spouse and kids 

 
What do we know about anger?  Some things to understand: If you are single, know this:  an anger issue always gets worse after marriage. "with a furious man you shall not go . . ."
It is impossible to live with an angry man without making him angry
Same is true for an angry woman

The target of anger is not the cause You are not to carry the responsibility for a spouses anger or a parents anger 
It is not your fault if your spouse is angry
It is not your fault if your parents are angry

Regarding men: anger is fueled by testosterone and is different than a woman's anger
Anger is physical often before it is processed (think of punching a wall)
Crying is a woman's response to feeling unloved; anger is a man's response to feeling disrespected

Talking things out will not make things better A man has to process his anger before he can talk
Talking about it in the moment will only increase his anger 
give him time to golf, piddle in the garage, or whatever  This is how he processes his emotions
Very few men process their emotions by talking



Regarding women:   Anger is fueled by emotions and wounds
Anger is often a result of unresolved conflicts 
Anger is sometimes the result of unmet expectations

Overcoming
 
1 John 5:4
This is the victory that overcomes the world, even our faith.
 
2 Corinthians 2:14
But thanks be unto God, who always causes us to triumph in Christ
 
Introduction:  As we enter 2026, we are going to explore the word Overcoming!
How do you overcome (fill in the blank)?
 
Henry Ford "Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently"
 
Proposition:  It is God's plan that we overcome every issue we face in our marriage and family and minstry.
Here are four essentials
The Word of God - what does the Bible say
Use of proven methods but is not a proven method 
and is a failed method
but is a failed method
Gentle parenting sounds so "cool" 
Cohabitation sounds plausible 

Use of proven resources Connection classes, Sunday School, life groups, etc
Worship
Preaching
Counseling
Books are a gift from God that most people never take advantage of
When it comes marriage and family issues, you cannot get the help you need in video snippets and fast-paced graphics
The church

The investment of right steps over a long period of time Time is required to do the work
Time is required to seek God through His Word in prayer
Time is required for a continual application of right steps
Time is required to develope new habits
Time is required to make changes
Time is required to sow seeds that can grow and bring fruit

Today, Bethlie and I wanted to reminisce a bit; talk about the future of the podcast; and make a plea for your help.
 
Reminisce
We have podcasted weekly for 5 years now.  A ton of study
More than a few hours in recording
Hundreds of messages and emails answered

We have enjoyed getting to know so many new people through our podcast Lots of couples
More than a few familes
Quite a few singles and teens as well

 
The Future
We know there is a need
We know there is a growing need There is an ignorance of Biblical Truth  There is simultaneously a growing embrace of cultural norms Masculinity is downplayed
Feminism is celebrated - indirectly, but celebrated nonetheless
Marriage is feared and discouraged  Wait until college is over
Wait until you have X amount of money and a secure enough job


While Christianity is frustrated at the aggressiveness of liberal views, we sometimes are getting the same results when it comes to preparing our kids for work, for marriage, and for life Transgenderism and homosexuality and feminism destroy and damage the traditionally celebrated nuclear family.
They also undermine it.


There is a subtle refusal of Biblical Commands  An increasing favoring of cultural views The issue of leadership and submission
The issue of modesty and standards relating to modesty
The issue of child training A fear of correction It will damage a child
It is negative 
Our forefathers were too hard

A fear of culture



There is a failure of Biblical instruction in pulpits
in homes Our boys are held back from being and becoming men who are prepared to be leaders, husbands, and fathers There is very little training
There is also a disdain of male leadership

Our daughters are redirected form being and becoming ladies who are trained and prepared to be wives and mommies There is almost no training in this area
There is a disdain for male leadership  Shown in ridicule
Shown in weddings
Shown in women's Bible studies




All this is to say, there is a growing need. 

 
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As we come to the end of yet another year, lets determine afresh and anew that "we will serve the Lord with gladness."  
 
Happy New Year!

Merry Christmas!!!
We love this time of year!
We love that it is a time of celebration
We love that it is a time of joy and singing and lights and decorations
We love that it is a time of feasting
We love that it is a time of gifts and giving
We love that it is a time of remembering that Jesus Christ came into the World
-as the Savior
-as Diety
We love the Christmas story
 
Matthew 1-2 Geneaology of Joseph - to list Jesus legal right to the throne of David
TheAngel's message to Joseph
The Angel's insistence that He be called Jesus
The Angel's insistence that he be called Immanuel
The arrival of the Wise Men their knowledge
The star
The way the events completely fulfill the OT prophecies about the Messiah Called out of Egypt
Weeping for the loss of Children
Called a Nazarene (lived in Nazareth)



Luke 1-2 is the most detailed account Emphasis on prayer multitude was praying
Zechariah was praying
Anna and Simeon were praying

Emphasis on faith Mary just accepted it and acted on it
Joseph did the same

Emphasis on Messiah's deity Mother of my Lord (Elizabeth)
He who is Mighty hath done great things for me

Emphasis on Jesus as the Messiah He fulfilled the OT prophecies
He claimed Diety and had the power of Diety
He was cut off just like Daniel had said he would be
He died and lived again just like Isaiah had said he would


 
Celebrate Him this week!
Read the story
Attend church
Teach it to your kids and grandkids
Sing the songs
Turn to Him