In this episode, Dave and Bethlie discuss "Good Pictures Bad Pictures," a critical resource for porn-proofing today's young kids in an age where internet pornography is accessible, affordable, anonymous, and aggressively seeking out our children. This book provides parents with practical tools and age-appropriate language to help children develop their own internal filter against harmful content before they're exposed to it. We'll explore why protecting our kids from pornography is essential and how this book equips families with a proactive plan to address one of the most dangerous threats facing children today. Young children are being exposed to Internet Pornography They tell several devastating stories of real kids damaged by it These kids prompted the book Porn is accessible to children and is anonymous and affordable (free) When it comes to kids and pornography, ignorance is risk. A child's brain is wired to imitate what it sees A child is therefore more vulnerable to porn Viewing porn alters a child's brain in such a way that it easily leads to an addiction that is harder to overcome than drugs or alcohol 100% of kids who choose to continue to view porn after an initial exposure are negatively influenced Today's porn has metastasized into degrading violence, rape, sex with children, group sex, and horrors that cannot be spoken outlaid. Addiction is very real Porn is a sinister counterfeit because it teaches that sex is a form of self-gratifying and often violent diversion instead of a way to build a loving committed relationship with someone they trust. Kids must develop their own internet filters. Its called porn-proofing It teaches kids what porn is It teaches them why it is harmful to their brains It teaches them how to minimize impact once they have been exposed About the chapters Chapter 1 defines pornography Chapter 2 defines addiction Chapter 3 discusses the "feeling brain" (as opposed to the "thinking brain") Chapter 4 discusses the "thinking brain" Chapter 5 discusses how to put the two together Chapter 6 My brains attraction center Chapter 7 How Porn tries the brain into an addiction Chapter 8 A CAN DO plan Chapter 9 Escaping the poison of pornography About the CAN DO plan Close my eyes immediately Always tell a trusted adult Name it when I see it Distract myself Order my thinking brain to be the boss
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Books That Can Help and Why...[Smalley] Part 4
Part 4 in the series on the book The DNA of Parent-Teen Relationships. Chapter 5. How to Argue with Teenagers and Come Out as Closer Friends 5,000 adults asked what they wished their parents had done differently during times of conflict They wished their parents had listened more They wished they could have talked about feelings more. They wished they had talked to their parents more Begin by listening - James 1:19 Sometimes we men don't know what to say to connect to our children's emotions - listening is a huge part of the battle Allow their emotion to touch you Take time to feel their pain Take time to feel their sadness Four destructive ways to argue Continually withdrawing from an argument Letting them escalate into hurtful name calling fights Belittling or invalidating each other during an argument Believing that a family member is tryin to hurt, frustrate, or cause fear on purpose. Drive-thru talking! Chapter 7 Democracy can bring responsibility to your home This is the chapter where they talk about making a contract See p. 118 for the why have one And p. 118 on how to develop one p. 125 They give advice on Dating
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Books That Can Help and Why...[Smalley] Part 3
Part 3 in the series on the book The DNA of Parent-Teen Relationships. Chapter 6 Finding the Best solution to any conflict Making Wise decisions is having the ability through discretion and extensive knowledge to sensibly discern and judge something before receiving and acting upon it. Power struggles cause the most issues with teens The key is to find a solution that both can feel good about Keys: Establish rules about discussing conflicts 10 rules for fair fighting The calmer the argument, the better the chance of an honoring outcome. With teens agree ahead of time on what the consequences of poor choices will be. Chapter 7 Democracy can bring responsibility to your home Real freedom is having the inner power to do what is best for all concerned. Immaturity is lacking the power to do what we know is right and not being able to delay gratification This is the chapter where they talk about making a contract See p. 118 for the why have one A written and signed document has tremendous power to keep peoplein harmony with agreed-upon, loving rules And p. 119 on how to develop one You have to read the book for all the details, but here are a few thoughts: Younger kids need less contract Teens need more Use precise wording that makes expectations clear We have recommended this in blended families especially The more involved in the agreement the greater the outcome There is a section here with some very practical advice: On asking questions - important to teach our teens We taught ours the Daniel method based on Daniel 1 On Cleanliness is good too Their rooms had to be clean before leaving for school or no TV for 24 hours
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Books That Can Help and Why... [Smalley] Part 2
Dave and Bethlie continue their series on the book The DNA of Parent-Teen Relationships. Chapter 5. How to Argue with Teenagers and Come Out as Closer Friends 5,000 adults asked what they wished their parents had done differently during times of conflict They wished their parents had listened more They wished they could have talked about feelings more. They wished they had talked to their parents more Begin by listening - James 1:19 Sometimes we men don't know what to say to connect to our children's emotions - listening is a huge part of the battle Allow their emotion to touch you Take time to feel their pain Take time to feel their sadness Four destructive ways to argue Continually withdrawing from an argument Letting them escalate into hurtful name calling fights Belittling or invalidating each other during an argument Believing that a family member is tryin to hurt, frustrate, or cause fear on purpose. Drive-thru talking!
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[From the Archives] A Biblical Overview of Emotions and Personality
We're taking a break from our book study this week and focusing on a very important topic in our society. During this season of high emotions in our country, join Dave and Bethlie as they look at emotions and personality from a Biblical standpoint. This episode originally aired on episode 142.
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