Dating Intentionally

How do you know if someone likes you early in dating? In this episode, I’m breaking down the clearest signs someone is romantically interested in you, the signals that are way too easy to overanalyze, and the number one way to get clarity when you’re confused.

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The seven biggest signs someone is genuinely interested in you

Why consistently showing up matters more than flirting, texting style, or body language

How to tell if your connection is actually progressing over time

Why someone can like you even if they don’t show interest exactly the way you would

The social media “signs” you should probably stop reading into

The number one way to confirm whether someone likes you

Why showing your own interest can save you from weeks of analyzing mixed signals

When confusion in early dating is normal — and when it starts becoming concerning

The difference between someone being interested in you and someone simply enjoying your attention

Why someone liking you still isn’t enough to make a relationship work long term

Why you should go into dates assuming the other person wants to be there

Plus, I answer a Dating Dilemma from a listener who has a crush on his coworker.

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Ep 191 - Tips for dating a coworker

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What if dating apps aren’t the problem, but the expectations we bring to them? In this episode, I’m talking with sociologist and dating expert Dr. Jess Carbino about how dating apps have changed the way we meet people, why we put so much pressure on finding an instant connection, and how to approach dating with more intention.
Jess shares what she learned from her time as Tinder’s 25th employee, why the spark isn’t the only thing that matters when choosing a partner, and how romantic relationships can help us understand ourselves and change the patterns we bring into our relationships.
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Use dating apps as a way to meet people instead of treating every match like a promise of a relationship

Let go of the pressure to find a magical meet-cute or experience love at first sight

Balance chemistry and attraction with compatibility and long-term potential

Understand how our early relationships shape the patterns we repeat in adulthood

Think critically about how AI can help with dating and where it can get in the way of genuine connection

Decide what matters most to you before you start swiping

Know what you can and can’t learn about someone from a dating profile

Create a dating profile that reflects who you really are instead of who you think you should be

Stop trying to present an idealized version of yourself to attract a partner

Approach dating with more confidence and trust that not meeting someone yet doesn’t mean you never will

Plus, Jess and I answer a dating dilemma from a 46-year-old single dad who has started dating a woman again after their first attempt ended because she didn’t feel the spark. We talk about how long to give the connection to develop, what might be holding her back, and what he should consider before continuing to invest in the relationship.

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Jess’s upcoming book: Better Love — available to preorder through her website

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What do you do when someone’s words say one thing, but their actions tell a different story?
In this episode, I’m answering four Dating Dilemmas about confusing behavior, mixed signals, and figuring out whether a connection is actually right for you. We’re talking about someone who keeps dating you but won't define the relationship, someone who says they’re ready to date but isn’t available, a long-distance connection that goes nowhere, and a relationship that starts intensely and then ends abruptly.
The common thread? Instead of trying to figure out exactly how someone feels about you, pay attention to how their behavior makes you feel and whether the relationship they’re offering is one you actually want.
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In this episode:

How to ask for clarity when someone avoids commitment

What to do when someone isn’t ready to date

How to navigate a confusing long-distance connection

Why intense beginnings don’t guarantee lasting interest

How to recognize unhealthy communication patterns

Why you don’t have to match someone else’s pace

How to move on without waiting for an apology

When to stop playing detective and trust what you see

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Episode 306 on pacing mismatch
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What if building a lasting relationship has less to do with falling in love and more to do with knowing yourself, choosing the right person, and learning how to love someone who is different from you? In this episode, I’m talking with relationship expert Kristy Scher about why we can’t rely on chemistry and the excitement of falling in love alone to build a lasting relationship, and how developing self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own behavior can change the way we show up in relationships.
Kristy breaks down the difference between falling in love and mature love, why disillusionment is a necessary part of building intimacy, and how learning to tolerate discomfort and embrace our differences can help us create deeper, more connected relationships.
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Find the right fit instead of getting swept up in the intensity of falling in love

Understand the three essentials of a lasting partnership: love, lust, and like

Move through disillusionment and build mature love

Stay true to yourself while making room for your partner to be different

Recognize how social media shapes our views of relationships and gender

Understand how childhood experiences and personal wounds affect our relationships

Take responsibility for your own behavior instead of focusing only on your partner’s flaws

Appreciate your partner’s efforts while giving grace without dropping your standards

Get comfortable with silence and stop feeling responsible for carrying every conversation

Stop imagining a future with someone before you know them and learn to tolerate uncertainty in dating

Plus, Kristy and I answer a dating dilemma from a 26-year-old man who wants a serious relationship but finds himself imagining a future with women before he even knows them. We talk about why the desire for connection can make us rush ahead, how to get curious about our own unmet needs, and why taking the time to discover whether someone is actually right for you matters more than simply finding someone who’s available.

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Kristy’s year-long program: The Way of the Adored Woman™
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Have you ever gone on what felt like a really good date, only to get the dreaded “I had a great time, but I didn’t feel a romantic connection” text afterward?
In this episode, I’m breaking down what actually creates romantic connection in early dating and 10 ways to make it easier for that connection to develop without forcing chemistry, performing, or trying to convince someone to like you.
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What a romantic connection actually feels like in the first few dates

Why a great conversation doesn’t always translate into romantic chemistry

Why first dates can feel more like performances than real connection

The interview, audition, and evaluation date traps that keep dates feeling platonic

Why playing it cool and waiting for the other person to make every move can kill momentum

How compliments, vulnerability, and follow-up questions create more connection

Why showing more of your personality makes you more attractive to the right people

The role texting and between-date communication plays in building momentum

Why physical touch and flirting matter and how to do both without making things overly sexual

How being honest about your interest can make dating feel less confusing

Why talking about your goals and dreams can create surprising intimacy

How to give someone more access to the real you without oversharing

Why your job isn’t to make someone like you, but to make it possible for them to actually get to know you

Plus, I answer a Dating Dilemma from a listener wondering how to embrace a slow burn when the person she’s dating is still seeing other people, including how to think about exclusivity, sex, and boundaries in early dating.

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Ep 211 on flirting w/ Francesca Hogi
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