In this episode, I’m talking about resentment—the kind that sneaks in when we keep saying yes to things we don’t want to do. I share a story about my son Pascal, a pile of deer meat, and how one small “dirty yes” turned into a full-blown meltdown. (Spoiler: it wasn’t really about the meat.) We’ll talk about the difference between a clean yes and a dirty yes, why women struggle with boundaries, and how people-pleasing leads to quiet rage. Whether it’s your partner, your kids, or your family during the holidays, this episode will help you spot resentment before it boils over—and teach you how to protect your energy without guilt.Timestamps:(00:00:32) "Deer Meat Trimming and Resentment Reflection"(00:04:22) Calm Down and Walk Away to Reflect(00:07:05) Bangs Dilemma: A Haircare Reflection(00:10:05) Clear Communication for Healthy Relationship Boundaries(00:14:27) Boundary Setting for Parenting Success👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
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274: How Dopamine Is Wrecking Our Kids (and Us)
In this episode, I’m diving deep into one of the biggest problems affecting us—and our kids—right now: dopamine overload. We’ve built a world that’s too comfortable, too fast, and too easy—and it’s wrecking our motivation, focus, and happiness. From snacks and screens to constant stimulation, our brains (and our kids’ brains) are stuck in overdrive. I’ll explain what dopamine actually is (it’s not the reward—it’s the motivation), why fast dopamine leads to burnout, and what we can do to slow things down. From going analog to doing hard things, this episode is your wake-up call to start craving real life again—the messy, meaningful, slow kind.Timestamps:00:00 — Welcome + Maverick’s barking + recording chaos 🐶03:00 — Why we’re in a “comfort crisis” as humans06:15 — Jamie’s first Tough Mudder + discovering the value of struggle10:00 — Dopamine 101: what it actually is and how it works13:45 — Pleasure vs. pain balance + why we always want more17:30 — Fast dopamine vs. slow dopamine explained20:00 — How hyper-palatable foods and screens hijack the brain24:15 — The danger of early brain wiring (ages 0–5)29:00 — What happens when kids get constant “fast” dopamine hits33:30 — Addiction, food noise, and why moderation doesn’t work for everyone38:15 — The role of analog living + slowing down reward pathways43:00 — Real-life solutions: go analog, delay gratification, do hard things47:30 — Jamie’s winter hike story: “We’re built for struggle”55:00 — Parenting takeaways: slow it down, let kids struggle, simplify life59:00 — The “idle brain” and why quiet is necessary1:03:00 — Final words: “Put your phone down and rock on.” 🤘👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
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273: You Don’t Have to Validate Everything Your Kid Does
In this episode, I’m talking about something that’s taken over modern parenting—the obsession with validating everything our kids do. Somewhere along the way, we started thinking we had to be front-row cheerleaders for every kick, drawing, or math problem. But here’s the truth: that constant validation actually chips away at your child’s confidence. I share stories from my own time coaching baseball (yes, me!) and explain why kids are better without us hovering. We’ll talk about how overpraise leads to fragile self-esteem, how to shift from “good job” to meaningful feedback, and why letting your kids handle discomfort builds resilience that lasts a lifetimeTimestamps:00:00 — The “mom on her phone” parenting guilt trend02:15 — Why constant validation hurts kids’ confidence05:30 — Coaching baseball and what kids do better without parents watching07:00 — Why kids need freedom to deal with discomfort and conflict09:30 — Praise effort, not outcome — the “good job” trap11:00 — What to say instead of “I’m so proud of you”13:00 — How to help kids process accomplishments through storytelling15:30 — The danger of “you made me happy” parenting language17:00 — Teaching kids emotional boundaries — your feelings aren’t theirs18:00 — How to raise confident, grounded kids without overpraise19:00 — Final thoughts: you don’t have to validate everything they do👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
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272: Your Kids Don't Need Snacks
In this episode, I sit down with mom and content creator Tori Winstead to talk about the parenting culture we’ve built—and how something as simple as snacks reveals so much about it. We unpack the rise of “snack addiction,” instant gratification, and how we’ve turned food (and screens) into emotional pacifiers for both kids and parents. Tori shares her viral story of quitting snacks cold turkey—and what it taught her about her kids, her boundaries, and herself. We talk dopamine, distress tolerance, gentle parenting gone sideways, and why it’s okay for kids (and parents) to feel a little discomfort. This conversation connects the dots between food, tech, and the emotional overload of modern parenting—and offers a hopeful path back to simplicity, leadership, and resilience.Timestamps:00:00 — Introduction: Jamie welcomes guest mom Tori Winstead01:30 — Tori shares her story of motherhood and finding Jamie’s work04:00 — How food and parenting advice became overwhelming online06:00 — The snack culture spiral: when did parenting get so hard?08:00 — Tori’s “no-snack” experiment and her mom’s old-school wisdom10:30 — The beach story that changed Jamie’s view on food13:00 — Why modern “healthy” snacks aren’t helping our kids16:00 — Emotional eating, dopamine hits, and pacifying with food19:30 — Comparing snacks to pacifiers and iPads22:00 — The instant gratification generation of parents26:00 — What happens when kids only eat ultra-processed foods30:00 — The impact of tech and overstimulation on modern moms33:00 — The cost of gentle parenting without boundaries38:00 — Why kids need to hear “life’s not fair” again41:00 — Leadership vs. authoritarian parenting45:00 — Repairing relationships and breaking generational cycles52:00 — The power of letting kids feel hunger and discomfort54:00 — “Microdosing suffering” to build resilience in kids56:00 — Final reflections on raising kids who can deal58:00 — Jamie’s wrap-up: “Rock on, and put your phone down.”Connect with Tori on Instagram👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
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271: Making the Holidays Easier
In this episode, I’m calling out the biggest myth of the holiday season—that you can make magic or “craft core memories” for your kids. You can’t. What your child remembers isn’t the matching pajamas or perfect tree—it’s how they felt. I’ll share stories from my own childhood (poverty, oranges, and pancake dinners), and how those simple, cozy moments turned into the most meaningful memories of all. We’ll talk about letting go of consumer pressure, shopping secondhand, teaching gratitude the real way, and surviving family dinners without losing your mind. This episode is your permission slip to slow down, simplify, and remember that love—not stuff—is what your kids will carry forever.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
A podcast for conscious parents who drop the f-bomb. A lot. We are the overthinkers, the dreamers, and the doers. We are parenting in a radically different way than those before us. But our divine vision gets blurry cause...OMG...kids can be such a pain in the ass. Let's work from the inside out, in a whole brain, whole body way to mitigate the crappy behavior. Not just with our kids but with ourselves. So you can be the parent you envision.
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