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The Yelling Series:

Part 1: Why You Keep Yelling Even When You Promised Yourself You'd Stop


Part 2: Why Your Body Starts the Yelling Before Your Brain Does (And How to Stop It) — you're here

Part 3: Why What You Do After You Yell Matters More Than the Yelling Itself (coming Thursday, June 4th)

You've tried counting to ten. You've tried breathing. You've read the books, you've watched the reels, and you still yell. What if it's not about trying harder — what if something else entirely is going on in your body?

In Part 2 of the Yelling Series, JoAnn goes deeper than the standard coping advice. Your body starts the yelling before your brain even knows what's happening — and for some moms, the tools just don't work because the root cause isn't a mindset problem at all.

This episode covers the physical mechanics of yelling, a breathing practice to try right now, and a deeply personal conversation about hormones, neurodiversity, and why so many women have been left without answers for far too long.

What you'll learn:

Why the rushing feeling Jenna Free talked about on Tuesday is your body's earliest warning signal — and what to do the moment you notice it

The relationship between time and stress — and the reframe from The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks that will change how you talk about not having enough time

Box breathing: what it actually is, how to practice it, and why it only works if you catch yourself early enough

JoAnn's personal story of going on hormone replacement therapy — and how it eliminated her migraines, fixed her sleep, and gave her energy back

Why so many women's symptoms (stiff shoulders, anxiety, waking at 3am, mood swings) are being treated individually when the underlying cause is estrogen

The progesterone and sleep connection that nobody talks about enough

Why women with ADHD experience perimenopausal symptoms up to 10 years earlier than the general population

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) — what it is, how it shows up in parenting, and why knowing about it keeps JoAnn calm when her kids reject her boundaries

Why if somatic tools aren't working for you, it is not you — and what might actually be going on

"If the tools aren't working, it might not be you. It might be hormones, neurodiversity, or biology that's worth investigating. You deserve to have the best relationships and best life possible — free of the guilt."

Note: JoAnn's hormone story is shared from personal experience only and is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your own healthcare provider about any health concerns.

Resources mentioned:


The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks — the time reframe JoAnn references in this episode


Dr. Mary Claire Haver on the Armchair Expert podcast — perimenopause and menopause episode

ADDitude Magazine article: Study: Perimenopausal Symptoms Are More Severe, Begin Earlier in Women with ADHD

Tuesday's episode with Jenna Free: Why You're Always Rushing — And What Your Body Is Actually Trying to Tell You

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You know that feeling of fast-walking across the house, going from room to room, shoulders up to your ears — and not even realizing you're doing it until someone asks if you're okay?

That rushing feeling isn't just a bad habit. It's your nervous system in fight or flight mode. And if you have ADHD, you might be living there almost all the time.

Jenna Free is a therapist, ADHD specialist, and author of The Simple Guide to ADHD Regulation. She was diagnosed at 32 — after having two kids in a year and a half — and has since spent hundreds of hours working with ADHD adults to understand the one pattern that shows up in every single one of them: the fight or flight cycle.

In this episode, JoAnn and Jenna get into the real reason so many moms feel like they're always drowning — and why more tips and tools are never going to fix it.

What you'll learn:

What the ADHD fight or flight cycle actually looks like — and why it's not just about the big explosive moments

Why rushing and impatience are early warning signals that you're already dysregulated — before you ever snap at your kids

The fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses that every ADHD mom will recognize in herself

Why people pleasing is actually a survival response — and has nothing to do with being a pushover

The one word that tells you immediately you're in dysregulation ("should")

Why awareness is always the first step — and what to actually do once you have it

The Gap vs. Gain theory and why looking at what you've accomplished (not what's left) literally regulates your nervous system

Why your symptoms aren't the ADHD itself — and what's actually making everything so much harder

Jenna's biggest insight:

"If you put an ADHD brain that's already different in fight or flight, you are quadrupling your symptoms. It's hard on top of hard. But it does not have to be this hard."

Resources mentioned:


The Simple Guide to ADHD Regulation by Jenna Free — available wherever books are sold, including your local library

The Gap vs. Gain concept from Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

Connect with Jenna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdwithjennafree

Listen next:

Why You're Always the One Remembering Everything (And How AI Can Help) with Sarah Dooley

Part 2 of the Yelling Series: Why Your Body Starts the Yelling Before Your Brain Does (Coming Thursday, May 29)

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This is Part 1 of the Yelling Series — three episodes all about why you yell, how to stop it in the moment, and what to do after it happens.

You promised yourself today would be different. And then it happened again.

If you’re stuck in the yelling cycle — the yell, the guilt, the promise to do better, repeat — this episode is for you. JoAnn breaks down what’s actually driving the yelling (hint: it’s not anger, and it’s not a character flaw) and gives you the first tool in breaking the pattern for good.

What you’ll learn:


Why knowing better is never enough to stop yelling


The meaning problem: what your brain is actually reacting to in the moment


Why the guilt spiral after yelling makes the pattern worse, not better


How to identify your personal yelling triggers — and what they’re really telling you


The 3-question Yelling Audit to do after this episode

Next week: Part 2 — the body reset tools you can use in under 60 seconds, even when you can’t leave the room.

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If your daughter is heading to college and talking about rushing a sorority, this episode is required listening — for you, not her. Between the mom guilt, the mental load of managing her college transition, and the overwhelm of a process you don't fully understand, rush season can send even the most grounded mom into a tailspin.

Trisha Addicks is a 30-year Rush consultant, author of The Rush Bible: Secrets to Crush Sorority Recruitment and Find Your Forever Greek Home, and was featured in the viral Bama Rush documentary. She has helped hundreds of families navigate one of the most emotionally charged processes in a young woman's college experience.

And her number one piece of advice for moms? Back off — but in the most loving, supportive way possible.

In this episode, JoAnn and Trisha break down everything you actually need to know about sorority rush, from how the matching process works (it's more like a two-way algorithm than you think) to how to support your daughter without accidentally making it worse.

What you'll learn:

How the rush process actually works, step by step — from the virtual first round all the way to bid day

Why your daughter can be cut before she even sets foot in a house (and what that means)

The single most important thing moms can do during rush week — and it's not what you think

The biggest mistake moms make when their daughter calls crying (and what to say instead)

Why sorority rush at NYU or an Ivy League is just as high stakes as Bama Rush — even if it looks different

The #1 misconception about sororities that the TikTok OOTDs are getting completely wrong

How to build your own support squad so you don't put your anxiety on your daughter

What sorority life actually looks like day-to-day (hint: it's a lot more than parties)

Why listening — not prepared questions — is the skill your daughter needs to practice before rush

Trisha's biggest reminder for moms:

"This is not your journey. It's hers. All you want is for her to find her people — and it doesn't matter what letters are on the door."

Resources mentioned:

The Rush Bible by Trisha Addicks

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In this episode, JoAnn dives into the friendship patterns that leave so many women feeling drained, lonely, and afraid to speak honestly. This conversation offers real mom support for women who constantly over-explain, avoid conflict, and silence themselves just to keep relationships intact.

JoAnn shares personal stories about friendships that ended painfully and the powerful realization that changed everything: healthy relationships are not relationships without conflict. They’re relationships where both people can handle honesty, accountability, and emotional safety without turning each other into the villain.

If you’ve ever felt like you were “too much,” too sensitive, or emotionally exhausted from carrying the weight of a friendship, this episode will help you recognize the red flags of emotionally unsafe relationships—and what healthy connection actually looks like.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

00:00 — Why So Many Women Feel “Too Much” in Friendships

05:10 — The Friendship Moment That Made Me Stop Trusting My Feelings

09:02 — Why Women Silence Themselves to Keep Relationships

15:00 — Why Honesty Feels Dangerous in Emotionally Unsafe Friendships

25:07 — What Emotionally Safe Friendships Actually Feel Like

This episode is a reminder that your feelings, needs, and honesty do not make you difficult to love. Healthy friendships don’t require you to abandon yourself just to stay connected.

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