No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Parenting Tips, & Self Care for Moms

You did something good for yourself, a massage, an hour off, a class you have always wanted to take, and then the guilt showed up like you had done something wrong. In this solo episode, JoAnn names exactly what is happening (she calls it the guilt slide) and walks you through how to catch it and step off before it takes down your day or your relationships.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to spot the "guilt slide," the moment a good thing you did for yourself turns into proof you did something wrong

Why that guilt is a sign something is new for you, not a sign you are selfish or broken

The one move that protects your closest relationships when the guilt hits, and why it is not asking "are you mad at me?"

Three self-compassion steps to wait out the discomfort instead of projecting it onto everyone around you

A simple way to redirect your brain so the feeling passes faster

Resources mentioned in this episode:

"This Isn't a Sketchbook, its an Art Class" drawing workbook

Podcast Episode: Why the ADHD Parenting Advice Doesn't Work (the RSD episode)

The Happy Mom Reset, JoAnn's free class

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Rewards feel like good parenting. A sticker chart here, screen time for finished homework there, and suddenly your kid won't do anything without asking what they get. In this episode, JoAnn sits down with Dr. Özgür Bolat, author of The Reward Trap, to unpack why rewards quietly backfire and what actually builds the motivation you want.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why your reward systems stop working, even when you set them up perfectly

The hidden message every reward sends your child, and why it lands like a threat

The one situation where a reward genuinely helps, and how to use it without getting stuck

A small shift you can try tonight that beats any sticker chart

How rewards and praise quietly feed your own mom guilt, and what to do instead

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The Reward Trap by Dr. Özgür Bolat

Dr. Özgür Bolat on Instagram

The Happy Mom Reset free class

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You're at the party, the pool, the vacation you planned, and the second one of your kids gets miserable, your fun switches off like someone hit a light. In this episode, JoAnn breaks down the moment she caught herself doing exactly this at her nephew's birthday party, and the one question that snapped her out of it. If your kids' emotions are costing you your own, this one is going to hit home.

In this episode, you'll learn:

The rushing cue: how to catch yourself before mild stress turns into full dysregulation

The difference between consideration and responsibility for your kids' feelings, and why one is loving while the other is exhausting you both

Exactly what to say when your kid says "I'm bored" (and how to spot the one situation where that script won't work)

Why letting your kid sit in mild discomfort is some of the best parenting you can do

The honest question to ask yourself when you rush to fix your kid's mood

Resources mentioned in this episode:

JoAnn's interview with Jenna Free on recognizing dysregulation

The Happy Mom Reset (free class)

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, in the middle of an especially relentless week, that a minor car accident might actually be a relief — if it meant a doctor's note to lie in bed for two days? No serious injuries, just... permission to stop?

Yeah. Emily and Julie get it.

JoAnn sits down with Emily Jones and Julie Dobbs, hosts of the Mom Game podcast, for an honest, unfiltered conversation about what it's actually like to be a high-achieving mom who cannot turn her brain off. They talk about the badge of honor we've attached to being busy, the two kinds of mental load (logistical and emotional — and why the emotional one never stops), hormones, perimenopause, the mom volunteer spiral, and what has genuinely helped each of them find moments of real relaxation in the middle of all of it.

In this episode:

The "minor car accident" fantasy — and why even joking about it should be a warning sign

Why high-achieving moms struggle to turn their brains off even when they technically have downtime

The difference between the logistical mental load and the emotional mental load (and why the emotional one follows you everywhere)

Why you're only as happy as your saddest kid — and what to do with that

How hormones and perimenopause are contributing to the overwhelm nobody talked about until now

The mom volunteer spiral: who's creating it, who's perpetuating it, and why moms are sometimes part of the problem

Why normalizing imperfection — including being open about your kid's ADHD diagnosis — actually helps everyone

What's genuinely helped each of them relax: girlfriends, court sports, a good group chat, and improv comedy

How to know when you need an outlet before you explode (and why you never want to wait until you do)

This one feels like sitting around with friends who get it. No solutions required — just a conversation that makes you feel a little less alone in all of it.

Find Emily and Julie on the Mom Game podcast wherever you listen to podcasts.

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Have you ever gotten a rejection — or even just an eye roll from someone — and felt it for days? Like actually felt it, physically, in a way that seemed way out of proportion to what happened? There's a reason for that. And it's not that you're too sensitive or too fragile. It might be exactly how your nervous system is wired.

In this episode, JoAnn gets personal about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), why it's strongly associated with ADHD brains, and why understanding it changed everything about how she deals with rejection. She shares the story of her first job out of college — working in the mailroom at Endeavor talent agency in Beverly Hills — and what happened when she dropped calls on an agent's desk for the first time. And then she walks through three tools that have genuinely helped her stop letting rejection run her life.

In this episode:

What Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria actually is — and why rejection can feel like physical pain for some nervous systems

Why rumination doesn't process rejection — it rehearses it (and what to do instead)

The NLP tool of association vs. disassociation — how watching yourself like a movie gives you access to compassion you can't find from inside the spiral

How disassociation helps you find the "why" of the other person — which makes the rejection feel a whole lot less personal

Why JoAnn's new goal is to collect as many no's as possible (and why that's not self-punishment — it's strategy)

The national board certification story: why the second rejection always hurts less than the first

Why failure is literally the fastest path to learning — and why being mistake-free makes you deeply unrelatable

The improv comedy lesson that reframes every stage fright into evidence you're growing

Whether or not you have ADHD, if rejection hits you harder than it seems to hit other people — if one critical comment can undo a week of confidence — this episode is for you.

Episodes mentioned:

Guy Winch on rumination — When Work Stress Hijacks Your Home: Stop Ruminating

Dr. Josh Davis on updating your beliefs — The Beliefs Fueling Your Mom Guilt (And How to Update Them)

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