As our kids grow, something powerful replaces control. That something is influence. And influence is built on relationship.
Influence grows where conversations feel safe. It deepens where respect is mutual. It strengthens when our kids know they are valued not just for what they do, but for who they are.
This shift mirrors a beautiful picture from Scripture. In 1 Thessalonians, Paul describes his relationship with others not through authority, but through gentleness, encouragement, and shared life. He speaks as both a nurturing mother and an encouraging father, showing us that lasting impact comes through relational investment.
When we move from controlling behavior to cultivating connection, we position ourselves to remain a meaningful voice in our children's lives.
In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack how parents can move from control to influence and respond when adult kids name old hurts in ways that build relationships that stay strong for the long haul.
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