Ep. 016 - Raising Gender-Confident Kids - When the Headlines Say "Transgenderism Is Over": What This Moment Really Means for Our Kids
In this episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy examine the swirling headlines about a supposed "dramatic decline" in transgender identification. They reveal why the current data has major methodological issues, why some trends reverse when properly weighted, and why numbers—whether up or down—tell us nothing about a child's internal world. The heart of the episode centers on identity formation: how confusion takes root, why kids grasp for labels, and how cultural pendulums create whiplash for an already overwhelmed generation. Dr. Kathy explains the five core needs (security, identity, belonging, purpose, competence) and shows how the identity need sits at the center of gender confidence. The pair offer practical, grace-filled coaching for parents navigating these waters with kids who are not struggling—and kids who are very much in the struggle. The episode closes with a reminder that this cultural moment is actually a perfect opportunity for parents to speak truth, stability, and love into their kids' lives more intentionally than ever.
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When Kids Stop Reading: Why Reading Still Shapes Who Our Kids Become
Books are disappearing from kids' lives, and so is something sacred. In this episode of Celebrate Kids: Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore startling new data showing that only 30% of eighth-graders read at or above proficiency, and that over 30% of teens hardly ever read for fun. Together, they unpack why reading has declined over the last 40 years and how technology has quietly taken its place. Dr. Kathy, whose Ph.D. is in reading and educational psychology, explains that kids don't just learn from books, they learn through them. Reading shapes imagination, memory, empathy, and even spiritual understanding. From a dad's nightly reading routine full of laughter and silly voices to the ancient call in Deuteronomy for God's Word to be read aloud to every generation, Wayne and Dr. Kathy remind parents that reading isn't just an academic exercise; it's identity formation. Discover how reading together restores belonging, deepens faith, and invites our kids to see the world through God's story, not just a glowing screen.
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A Hundred Praises or One Blessing: How Our Words Shape Who Kids Become
What if the words we speak over our kids aren't just communication, but are actually creation? In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy tackle a new claim from psychologist Dr. Chelsea Haug-Zavaleta that children should receive 100 compliments a day to thrive emotionally. Dr. Kathy challenges the research, explaining that it's not about the number of compliments, it's about the ratio of affirmation to correction and the meaning behind our words. She offers practical insights for balancing affirmation with healthy boundaries, showing how kids form identity through the voices they trust most. Together, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack what it means to parent fragile and resilient kids, share how correction can build character rather than shame, and connect the science of affirmation to the biblical power of blessing from Genesis 27. This episode reminds us that spoken love forms lasting truth, and that a few sincere words can build what a hundred empty praises never could.
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Protecting Play: Understanding Roblox and How to Keep Kids Safe, Strong, and Truly Connected
Online platforms like Roblox promise fun, creativity, and connection, but for millions of kids, those promises are breaking. In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack the rise of digital gaming and the dangers hidden behind "safe" online play. From lawsuits and predatory risks to the loss of imagination, they contrast artificial worlds with the kind of real play God designed to shape hearts, build courage, and foster identity. Drawing on the story of David's childhood play and its role in forming his bravery, Dr. Kathy reminds us that kids don't just need entertainment; they need formation. Discover why parents stepping in to set boundaries isn't control; it's love, and how playing together as families restores joy, resilience, and faith in a distracted age. Visit today's sponsor, Summit Ministries at: summit.org/celebratekids Use the code celebrate26 at checkout for some great discounts and gifts.
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The Power of Handwriting: Unlocking Brain Potential in Parenting
In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Wayne reflects on the challenges and inefficiencies of parenting, particularly when trying to nurture a child's potential. He and Dr. Kathy discuss the importance of recognizing and encouraging a child's unique personality traits while acknowledging that parenting often involves navigating dark and inconvenient moments. The episode highlights a fascinating study from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology, which reveals that handwriting engages the entire brain, unlike typing. This insight serves as a reminder for parents to embrace less efficient, more meaningful interactions with their children.
Daily encouragement from a multitude of speakers, led by Dr. Kathy Koch. All topics covered are helpful not only to kids and their parents, but also to single adults, married couples, teachers, social workers, pastors, and many more. We hope you can be encouraged through these messages, send it to a friend so they can join you in joy and growth!
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