The Mark Groves Podcast

In this episode I go straight at the truth most of us avoid: if you don’t decide who you are, someone else will decide for you. I unpack how people pleasing, codependency, and the fear of saying no quietly steal your dreams, your health, and your self respect, and how every external betrayal usually starts with an internal one. I challenge you to audit where you’re abandoning yourself, where you’re choosing belonging over authenticity, and where you’re consuming instead of creating.  If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your identity, stop living for approval, and finally build relationships that help you grow instead of shrink, this conversation will light a fire under you.

Resources:
—Get My Breakup 5 Day Audio Series and Workbook: www.createthelove.com/breakupaudio
Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book
—Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses

Follow me and my work here:
—Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv 
—Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com
—Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/itsmarkgroves
—Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove
Have A Question?—Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast

If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com

Drop us a note at [email protected] for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello!

This episode is sponsored by:

Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at https://l.shareiin.com/Zs6uK

In this episode I speak directly to anyone stuck in a manipulative or emotionally abusive relationship and wondering why leaving feels so impossible. I unpack how empathy, hope, and old attachment wounds can keep you bonded to chaos, and why compassion without boundaries turns into self-abandonment. This episode offers a clear, empowering truth: the moment you recognize where you’re still consenting to the dynamic, you regain the power to choose differently. If you’ve been doubting yourself, questioning your reality, or waiting for someone else to change, this is your invitation to reclaim your agency and become the safety you’ve been searching for.

Resources:
—Get My Breakup 5 Day Audio Series and Workbook: www.createthelove.com/breakupaudio
Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book
—Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses

Follow me and my work here:
—Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv 
—Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com
—Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/itsmarkgroves
—Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove

Have A Question?

—Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast

If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com

Drop us a note at [email protected] for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello!

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In this episode I share a deeply personal reflection on how a recent therapeutic psychedelic experience helped me untangle inner conflict, release resentment, and reconnect with a clearer sense of purpose. I unpack the realization that I was pouring energy into the wrong battles and how parts work revealed a more life giving path forward focused on presence, integration, and truth rather than reactivity. This episode explores identity, belonging, trauma, and technology and invites you to stop fighting yourself, reclaim your life force, and redirect it toward a life that actually feels grounded, meaningful, and whole.

Resources:
—Get My Breakup 5 Day Audio Series and Workbook: www.createthelove.com/breakupaudio
Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book
—Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses

Follow me and my work here:
—Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv 
—Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com
—Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove
—Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove

Have A Question?

—Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast

If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com

Drop us a note at [email protected] for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello!

This episode is sponsored by:
Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN
Avocado Green Mattress: www.avocadogreenmattress.com

Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode Mark sits down with acclaimed therapist and author of It Didn’t Start With You, Mark Wolynn, to unpack the shocking science and lived reality of inherited trauma. They dive into research showing how war and partner violence can leave epigenetic “fingerprints” across generations, and why so many high-functioning people still wake up with panic, loneliness, or a sense of not being safe, often without knowing why. Learn the powerful “worst fear” question that helps pinpoint whether you’re dealing with attachment trauma or inherited family trauma. This conversation offers a radically clear map for where the pain actually starts and how to finally resolve it.
Mark Wolynn (accent on second syllable) is the director of the Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco. He is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. His book It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology, and has been translated into 17 languages. His articles have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, MariaShriver.com, Elephant Journal and Psych Central, and his poetry has been published in The New Yorker.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markwolynn
Website: https://markwolynn.com/
Workbook: https://amzn.to/468KGZJ

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—This episode is sponsored by: Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN

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In this episode I deliver a no-BS reminder that you’re not stuck, you’re actually choosing, and the moment you stop owning your choices is the moment you hand your life over to resentment, helplessness, and disconnection. I break down why radical responsibility is the gateway to real freedom (without denying grief, pain, or the ways you’ve been hurt), and why “pretending you don’t know” is one of the most self-destructive habits we normalize. This is your call to stop playing small, stop colluding with old identities and addictions, and start treating failure as feedback, not a final verdict.

Resources:
—Get My Breakup 5 Day Audio Series and Workbook: www.createthelove.com/breakupaudio
Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book
—Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses

Follow me and my work here:
—Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv 
—Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com
—Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove
—Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove

Have A Question?

—Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast

If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com

Drop us a note at [email protected] for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello!

This episode is sponsored by:
Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN

Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands