Lowkey Chaotic

Let’s talk about kinks. About desire and shame. About power, safety, and what it means to feel truly seen by someone. In this episode, I share what I’m learning about wanting, boundaries, trust, and intimacy and why desire is never as random as we think.

Let’s talk about kinks.About desire and shame. About memory and fantasy. About power, safety, and what it means to feel truly seen by someone. In this episode, I share what I’m learning about wanting, boundaries, trust, and intimacy and why desire is never as random as we think.

“Fuck her till she falls in love” is a phrase that gets thrown around casually as a joke, a warning, or a dismissal.This episode takes that cliché apart.Instead of framing women’s attachment after intimacy as weakness or lack of control, we look at what’s actually happening beneath the surface: nervous system responses, cultural conditioning, and the power dynamics that shape how closeness is experienced and judged.If you’ve ever been told you “caught feelings” as if it were a personal failure, this conversation offers language, context, and relief instead of shame.

In this episode, I talk about endings that don’t happen on your terms, how women are conditioned to cling to the “good guy” in dating culture even when he doesn’t fulfill all their desires, and the nervous system - how it bonds to patterns, why it doesn’t care about timelines or logic, and how it shapes the way we experience loss.

Situationships suck. Good people exist. Clarity is care. Endings are okay. And I broke my foot yesterday.