Can't Host: Gay, Bisexual, and Queer Men’s Sex and Relationships

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In this episode, I sit down with Alessandro Rōz to explore masculinity, queerness, brotherhood, and what becomes possible when men learn how to connect beyond performance, fear, and social conditioning. We talk about Alessandro’s journey through the world of men's work, the challenges queer men face in predominantly straight male spaces, and how many of us learn to shape-shift and mask parts of ourselves in order to feel safe and accepted. Together, we explore why so many queer men feel disconnected from other men, the impact of bullying and heteronormative culture, and how healing those wounds can unlock entirely new ways of relating.

We also dive into some of Alessandro’s most viral ideas, including why he believes all men contain a natural capacity for homoerotic connection, how queer men act as bridges between masculine and feminine energies, and why modern culture often reduces male connection to either "fuck" or "kill." Along the way, we discuss eros, intimacy, queer ancestry, spirituality, the growing movement of straight men exploring their queerness, and practical tools for cultivating deeper presence in both relationships and sex. This episode is an invitation to rethink what connection, masculinity, and queer community can look like when love is placed back at the center.

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Ep.71: Healing After a Breakup: https://georgelizos.com/blog/healing-after-a-breakup-my-twin-flame-journey-and-the-lessons-it-taught-me

Ep.77: Sex Shame, OnlyFans, and My Top Era: https://georgelizos.com/blog/sex-shame-onlyfans-and-my-top-era

Ep.81: A Straight Guy and a Gay Guy with Tony Demetriou: https://georgelizos.com/blog/a-straight-guy-and-a-gay-guy-compare-sex-notes-with-tony-demetriou

Ep.82: Straight Guy Talks with Tony Demetriou: https://georgelizos.com/blog/straight-guy-talks-anal-play-rimming-the-male-g-spot-with-tony-demetriou

ABOUT ALESSANDRO RŌZ

I'm a queer ceremonialist guiding men into deeper intimacy with themselves, their desire, and their unique gifts. Growing up as the only gay child in an all-male family in northern Italy, I learned early to make myself smaller to belong. After a decade in Hollywood and an Emmy-nominated production, I followed a deeper calling into the Peruvian Amazon, apprenticing with Shipibo, Mestizo, and Ashaninka teachers. I later facilitated more than twenty men's retreats worldwide with Sacred Sons before creating spaces specifically for queer men. Today, I blend shamanic practice, somatic embodiment, IFS, mirror work, and erotic ritual through Bloom and Brotherhood of Lovers, a queer-led mystery school I co-founded with Langston Kahn. My work continues an ancient tradition: teaching men how to love.

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Lightworkers Gotta Work: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf
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I recently had one of the most unexpectedly wholesome experiences of my life: after hooking up with a guy in a gay sauna, we ended up standing in the shower singing musical theatre songs together. The experience left me questioning many of the assumptions I’d carried about saunas, bathhouses, and queer sexual spaces. Why did I feel so much shame walking into a sauna in the first place? Where did that shame come from? And why have so many of us inherited the belief that spaces created by gay men for pleasure and connection are somehow less respectable than other forms of community?

In this episode, I explore the history of gay bathhouses, the role queer spaces have played in helping LGBTQ people find each other, and the ways sexuality, friendship, intimacy, and belonging often overlap in queer culture. We talk about chosen family, minority stress, internalized shame, and why physical queer spaces still matter in the age of dating apps. Most of all, this episode is an invitation to question the stories we’ve been told about gay community, and the shame we may still be carrying because of them.

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Ep.77: Sex Shame, OnlyFans, and My Top Era: https://georgelizos.com/blog/sex-shame-onlyfans-and-my-top-era

Ep.83: Dom Tops vs Dumb Tops: Consent, Control, and Real Connection in Bed: https://georgelizos.com/blog/dom-tops-vs-dumb-tops-consent-control-and-real-connection-in-bed

Ep.18: Trending Gay Sex Toys with Agnetas Sergejevas: https://shows.acast.com/cant-host/episodes/66867b5704b201dd3472a0d4

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Lightworkers Gotta Work: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf
Protect Your Light: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd
Secrets of Greek Mysticism: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1uPvr
Ancient Manifestation Secrets: https://2ly.link/1zCVg
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In this intimate and intellectually rich episode, I sit down with writer Jeremy Atherton Lin to explore the themes of his book Deep House — a powerful blend of queer love story, cultural history, immigration, and political resistance. We talk about what it means to build a relationship across borders, how laws and systems shape queer intimacy, and why the real issue for many queer couples was never simply marriage equality, but the right to belong together in the first place. Jeremy reflects on meeting his British partner during the rise of DOMA, navigating an “undocumented” queer life together, and how love itself can become both deeply personal and quietly political.

We also dive into themes of home, surrender, migration, queer history, and the emotional reality of long-distance relationships. Jeremy shares why he wanted to preserve forgotten queer stories from the past, why erotic and domestic intimacy matter in queer storytelling, and how borders continue to shape modern queer life even after legal progress. Along the way, we explore fears many listeners will relate to — wondering whether long-distance love is worth it, fearing loneliness, and questioning how to create stability in an uncertain world. This episode is about love, belonging, and what queer relationships can teach us about freedom and connection.

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ABOUT JEREMY ATHERTON LIN

Jeremy Atherton Lin is the author of Deep House, a USA Today national bestseller and one of the Publishers Weekly Top 10 Best Books of 2025. His debut Gay Bar received the National Book Critics Circle Award for Autobiography and was named a book of the year by The New York Times, NPR, Vogue, Spin, and Artforum, among others. Jeremy’s essays appear in numerous places including the Paris Review, the Times Literary Supplement, and the Yale Review. His cover profiles of queer cultural figures include Sam Smith for GQ, Jeremy O Harris for Fantastic Man, and Wolfgang Tillmans for Frieze. His sound programs have been broadcast on NTS Radio. He is based primarily in St Leonards-on-Sea, a coastal town in England.

Website: https://jeremyathertonlin.com/
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Deep House Book: https://jeremyathertonlin.com/deep-house/

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Lightworkers Gotta Work: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf
Protect Your Light: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd
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In this episode, I sit down with Nick Wolny to explore the connection between queer identity, money mindset, and building a life that actually feels aligned. We talk about shifting from “doing what we love” to “doing who we are,” and how that mindset can completely transform the way we approach career, success, and financial freedom. Nick explains why queer people are often uniquely equipped to redefine success outside traditional life scripts — and how that can become a powerful advantage when it comes to money, purpose, and lifestyle design.

We also dive into the emotional side of money, including the shame, scarcity, and limiting beliefs many queer men carry around finances and self-worth. Nick breaks down investing and financial literacy in simple, accessible language, shares the key numbers people should actually track, and offers practical steps for becoming more financially confident starting today. This episode is about more than wealth — it’s about creating a life where your money supports your fullest, most authentic queer self.

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ABOUT NICK WOLNY

Nick Wolny is an author and personal finance columnist. He writes about money, technology, queer culture, and how they intertwine. He writes the finance column for Out magazine, and his first book Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt, and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future came out earlier this year.

Website: https://nickwolny.com/
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Check ou the book Money Proud here:https://nickwolny.com/book

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Lightworkers Gotta Work: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf
Protect Your Light: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd
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Ancient Manifestation Secrets: https://2ly.link/1zCVg
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In this episode, I sit down with dentist Dr Brian Novy to talk about something we all do but rarely think about properly — oral hygiene and oral sex. We break down the most common causes of bad breath, when you should actually brush your teeth before or after oral sex, and what’s really happening inside your mouth during a blowjob. This conversation blends science, health, and real-life practicality in a way that will completely change how you think about your oral care routine.

We also get into specific recommendations for keeping your mouth healthy while still enjoying your sex life, from toothpaste choices to toothbrush techniques and simple habits that make a big difference. If you’ve ever worried about breath, hygiene, or how to stay safe while giving oral, this episode gives you clear, no-shame answers backed by real expertise — with a few laughs along the way.

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ABOUT DR. BRIAN NOVY

Dr. Nový has faculty appointments at Western University of Health Sciences and Harvard School of Dental Medicine. He served on the American Dental Association Council of Scientific Affairs from 2010-2014, and in 2016 was appointed the consumer representative, United States Food Drug Administration Dental Products Panel. His papers pertaining to cariology and dental materials are published in various journals including the Journal of the American Dental Association, the Journal of Dental Research, the Journal of Evidence Based Dentistry, Dentistry Today, Dental Economics, and the National Academy of Medicine. His awards include the ADA Evidence Based Practice Award, the American Dental Association Adult Preventive Care Practice of the Year, the Dugoni Award, and the Academy of General Dentistry Weclew Award, and the 2024 Yankee Dental Congress Clinician of the Year. He practices in Salem, Massachusetts.

Have you ever heard that phrase, "Nine out of ten dentists recommend...?" Have you ever wondered who that tenth dentist was who didn't agree with the other nine? He's here today to talk about oral sex...

Website: https://www.whollymolar.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbriannovy/

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Be The Guru: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj
Lightworkers Gotta Work: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf
Protect Your Light: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd
Secrets of Greek Mysticism: ⁠⁠⁠https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1uPvr
Ancient Manifestation Secrets: https://2ly.link/1zCVg
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