After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

Divorce is one of the most painful decisions a parent can make, and there's one thing that's always top of mind when facing a possible separation or divorce: will my kids be okay? Today's episode will give you a big, firm, YES. And shows you EXACTLY how to move through this difficult chapter to ensure the best outcomes for you, and your kids. Because the truth is, a healthier household is the BEST choice for your kid, and often, this means choosing the difficult path of divorce, not despite your kids, but FOR your kids.

In today's episode, Deena sits down with Gabriella Pomare, a family lawyer, co-parenting expert, and mom who has lived this reality herself. Together, they go far beyond surface-level advice and into the real work of co-parenting when emotions are raw, grief is heavy, and your kids still need you to lead.

This conversation tackles the questions parents are often too afraid to ask:
How do you support your kids through separation while you’re still breaking inside?
What actually harms kids after divorce, and what protects them long-term?
How do you co-parent with someone who won’t cooperate?
How do you set boundaries, reduce conflict, and stop kids from carrying adult pain?
And how do you grieve the family you imagined… without letting that grief shape your child’s future?

Gabriella shares practical tools, hard-earned wisdom, and a powerful reframe: divorce doesn’t create broken families, unresolved conflict does. This episode is about emotional leadership, healing without involving your kids, and redefining what a healthy family can look like after everything changes.

If you’re considering separation, in the middle of it, co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, or supporting someone who is, you need this episode. You'll walk away with everything you need to have a healthy, happy family - even in this new, different looking stage of life.

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For more than a decade, Scheana Shay has lived her life in the public eye, on Vanderpump Rules, in headlines, and under constant scrutiny. But while the world watched one version of her story, a much harder one was unfolding behind closed doors. In this deeply honest sit-down, Scheana opens up about the reality she was carrying while cameras kept rolling. A traumatic, life-threatening birth. Debilitating postpartum OCD and intrusive thoughts that left her afraid of her own mind. And the moment she discovered her husband had cheated, while she was raising a young child and barely surviving herself.

Scheana shares what it was like to endure all of this while being judged in real time. To hold herself together on set while falling apart at home. And, for the first time ever, the real reason she decided to stay in her marriage. This episode is a story of resilience. Of a woman rebuilding herself while the world dissected her choices. Of motherhood in its most vulnerable moments. Of mental health struggles that don’t wrap up neatly. And of a marriage that broke and had to be rebuilt slowly, imperfectly, and honestly.

If you’ve ever felt like you were falling apart behind a brave face, this episode will stay with you.

Trigger warning: birth trauma, postpartum OCD/intrusive thoughts, infidelity.

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Most parents are doing everything they can to raise good kids, and still feeling exhausted, reactive, and unsure if they’re actually helping in the long run.

So much parenting advice is obsessed with today’s behavior: listening, sharing, cooperating, “being good.” But this episode zooms out and asks a much bigger question: Who are you raising your child to become?

Kristin sits down with parenting researcher, Whole Parent founder, and author Jon Fogel to challenge one of the most deeply ingrained ideas in parenting: that control and obedience create resilient kids. Together, they unpack why obedience can look like a win in the short term, while quietly undermining confidence, resilience, and emotional health over time: and what actually builds those skills instead.

They explore how everyday power struggles shape the adult your child will eventually become, why so many well-intentioned discipline strategies backfire, and how shifting from rules to values can completely change your home dynamic.

This episode will:

* Help you shift your focus from short-term obedience to long-term emotional health
* Reframe discipline as skill-building, not behavior control
* Clarify the difference between rules and values — and why values actually stick
* Explain why yelling is a nervous system issue, not a discipline strategy
* Give you a framework for parenting with respect, boundaries, and authority

This conversation will change how you think about discipline, power, and success in parenting. It’s for parents who want to stop micromanaging behavior and start raising confident, capable adults, without losing boundaries or authority along the way.

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We’re back with one of our favorite episodes of the year: the trends of the year episode where we scour the internet for the hottest trends forecasted for 2026. Your resident besties, Kristin and Deena officially give the tired mom stamp of approval of which trends we're into, which ones are crazy AF and which trends need to be stopped, stat.

We’re talking:
• Fashion hot takes (including the audacity of the internet declaring leggings are dead 😭)
• The return of BIG bows (bigger. floppier. sadder??)
• The end of sad beige everything and the rise of serious color
• The AI takeover (journaling prompts, bedtime stories, “emotional support” bots… and why it gives us the ick)
• And the parenting trends we’re actually cheering for: less overscheduling, more sanity, more presence, more “we’re not doing this just to keep up.”

Plus: rapid fire “in or out,” voice notes vs texting, being offline as a flex, micro-rests, quitting activities, and the most freeing trend of all: you don’t owe anyone an explanation.

This episode is your permission slip to laugh, roll your eyes, and walk into 2026 like: I can do whatever the hell I want. (And yes, Deena is absolutely being sent a sad bow + Adidas tracksuit.)

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The world tells us the newborn stage is supposed to be magical. Soft lighting. Sweet snuggles. “Soak it all in.” But for so many parents? It’s a blur of no sleep, hormonal whiplash, identity loss, and quietly asking yourself, “Why am I not okay?” Deena is back from maternity leave, and in this raw, deeply honest conversation, we’re finally talking about what she actually lived through. Not the highlight reel. Not the “grateful, glowing, cherishing every moment” version. The real one.

We talk about the adrenaline of the first weeks… and the crash that hits after. The rage no one warns you about. The intrusive thoughts you don’t want to admit. The weird grief that can exist right next to overwhelming love. The exhaustion of juggling a newborn and other kids. And the pressure to be “back to normal” when your nervous system is still in survival mode.This episode is for the parent who loves their baby fiercely… and still feels like they’re barely holding it together.

In this conversation, you’ll learn:
• Why the postpartum hormone crash can hit weeks in, not right away
• Why irritability, rage, and numbness are just as real as anxiety or sadness
• How struggling is so much more common than you think
• And how to stop telling yourself you’re doing this wrong

Whether you’re in the thick of the newborn stage right now or still carrying the emotional imprint of it years later, this episode will make you feel seen, understood, and a help-you-breathe-again kind of relieved."

This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.

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