We're Going There with Bianca Juarez

Have you ever felt the weight of an offense sitting in your chest like a stone, keeping you from the peace you know you’re meant to carry?

In this episode I sit down with Pastors April and Micahn Carter to get real about the "spirit of offense." We’re cutting through the noise to expose how holding onto hurt isn't just a spiritual issue, it's a physical and relational cage. If you’ve been feeling isolated, exhausted, or stuck, this conversation is your key to freedom.

We’re breaking down the roots of bitterness and bringing you the spiritual tools to walk in true liberation.In this episode, we dive into:

The Roots of Bitterness: Micahn pulls back the curtain on why we get offended—often it's the entitlement, the embarrassment, or the unrealistic expectations we hold over others.

The "Proximity" Trap: Why the people closest to us; our church family, our familia, our dearest friends; are the ones who wound us the deepest.

Decisional vs. Emotional Forgiveness: We aren't just talking about saying "I forgive you." We’re teaching you the difference between the choice to let go of revenge and the daily work of replacing resentment with compassion.

Prayer as an Anointing: Learn why it is impossible to stay angry when you are actively, fervently praying for the very people who hurt you.

Owning Your Story: True healing starts when we realize we’ve all been the offender at some point. We discuss how to swallow our pride, listen to the pain behind the conflict, and walk in grace.

Grab your Bible, get a cup of coffee, and join @michancarter, @therealaprilcarter and me @biancajuarezofficial as we choose freedom over bondage.

Listen, subscribe, and share this with someone who needs to hear that they don't have to carry this burden any longer.

Love you,

B

Guests

Micahn and April Carter from The Place Indy Church https://www.instagram.com/theplaceindy/ 

Chapter Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to the Topic of Offense

06:32 Personal Stories and Experiences with Offense

15:00 Understanding the Roots of Offense

21:09 Navigating Relationships and Offense

22:13 Understanding Offense and Its Impact

30:31 Navigating Deep Offense in Close Relationships

36:40 The Journey from Decisional to Emotional Forgiveness

43:14 The Power of Prayer and Blessing in Healing 

Resources & Links

Bianca’s Book: Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC

Bible Study: Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study https://www.biancajuaerzofficial.com/gdq

All Resources: Learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancajuarezofficial.com/resources

Support 

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What do you do when life tries to shrink you, but God keeps calling you to stand tall?

This week, I sat down with my brother‑friend Tim Ross in The Basement for a raw, unfiltered conversation about the parts of my story most people only see in fragments. Tim gave me the space to go there - all the way there - and I didn’t hold back. I opened up about the parts of my story that shaped me, stretched me, and ultimately rebuilt me - not through perfection, but through obedience.

In this episode, we touch on:


Losing a marriage, a home, and financial security - and choosing faithfulness anyway


How art curation unexpectedly prepared me to bring theology to life


Healing after rejection and remembering Jesus as my Kinsman Redeemer


Why my restoration was never tied to a man, a marriage, or money

If you’ve ever felt pressure to shrink, disappear, or carry shame that God never assigned to you, this conversation will breathe courage into your spirit.

Listen now and show Tim some love by tagging us on your socials @upsetthegram and @biancajuarezofficial. Tell us how this episode impacted you -  and don’t forget to share, subscribe, and like the episode. Love you!

See you next week.

B

Resources & Links


Bianca’s Book: Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC


Bible Study: Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study https://www.biancajuaerzofficial.com/gdq


All Resources: Learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancajuarezofficial.com/resources

Support 


Subscribe + Leave a Review: Don’t miss an episode! Find We’re Going There on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.


Stay Connected: Join the community today. https://www.biancajuarezofficial.com/ 


WGT Email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org


Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@BiancaJuarezOfficial


Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biancajuarezofficial/ 

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If you’ve ever felt the pressure to perform—to be the perfect wife, the most productive worker, the best mom, or even the most devoted Christian—you know the exhausting grip of a performance-based identity. 

In this heart-to-heart episode, I share the difference between the identity you earn and the identity you receive. I unpack how the relentless pursuit of achievement is a spiritual trap that steals our peace and obscures the simple, profound truth of our worth in Christ. This is not about doing less; it's about shifting the why behind your doing. We explore practical, faith-aligned ways to disentangle your self-worth from your external output, embracing the radical rest that comes from knowing your value is settled. 

Tune in for a message that will liberate your heart and draw you back to the truth of grace.

Tag me @biancajuarezofficial.

Love you,

B

RESOURCES/LINKS

Sound Bite to Share: 

The most exhausting work in the world is trying to maintain a worth that God already secured.

Chapter Timestamps


00:00 | Celebrating 200 Episodes


03:15 | Defining the Trap


05:13 | Breaking the Chains of Perfectionism


07:50 | The Lie of External Metrics


17:20 | Understanding Our Identity in God


19:05 | The Grace-Based Action Plan


22:32 | Practical Steps to Embrace Grace


23:00 | Closing Prayer  

Resources & Links


Bianca’s Book: Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC


Bible Study: Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study https://www.biancajuaerzofficial.com/gdq


All Resources: Learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources

Support the Podcast


Subscribe + Leave a Review: Don’t miss an episode! Find We’re Going There on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.


Stay Connected: Join the community today. https://www.biancajuarezofficial.com/ 


WGT Email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org


Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@BiancaJuarezOfficial


Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biancajuarezofficial/ 

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Is Your Strength a Spiritual Gift, or a Survival Tactic? You wear the word "Resilience" like a badge of honor. You have endured, survived, and carried the weight. We celebrate that power.

But what if the very strength that saved you is now the barrier keeping you from what you truly need: healing, rest, and surrender?

This week, we confront the Resilience Paradox: The more you rely on your own ability to bounce back, the less space there is for God's power to carry you through.

It’s time to trade your relentless grit for His grace. Tag me @biancajuarezofficial to share how you are breaking the paradox.

Love you,

B

RESOURCES/LINKS

Bianca’s book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC 

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The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available. https://www.biancajuaerzofficial.com/gdq 

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Are you exhausted from trying to look perfect and polished? I’m diving deep into the chokehold of performance and anxiety that keeps so many of us trapped. I’m calling out the Pharisee Complex—the dangerous lie that says excellence equals worthiness. It’s time to trade in that prison of perfection for the radical freedom found in grace. I’m giving you the keys today, including three practical, one-thing-only steps to embrace wholeness over flawlessness. 

Key Takeaways for a Quick Win


God desires wholeness (telios), not flawlessness. Stop striving to be perfect; start pursuing maturity and completeness.


Perfectionism is a prison that limits our freedom; it’s not a personality type, it's often a protection mechanism.


Radical Repentance is the shift from a life of damage control to a life dependent on God’s grace.

Family, I love you and I’m cheering for you to walk in this new freedom. Don't keep this key to yourself! If this episode broke a chain in your life, you know someone else who needs to hear it. Do a sister a favor and tag me @biancajuarezofficial so we can set more captives free together. 

Love you,

B

Sound Bite to Share: 

Bring it messy, bring it undone.

Chapter Timestamps


00:00 Introduction to Perfectionism


02:47 The Pressure of Perfection


05:37 Understanding the Pharisee Complex


08:42 Signs of Perfectionism (Fear of Judgment, Misunderstanding Scripture, Idol of Control)


11:27 Breaking Free from Perfectionism


14:44 Practical Steps to Freedom

Resources & Links


Bianca’s Book: Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC


Bible Study: Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study https://www.biancajuaerzofficial.com/gdq


All Resources: Learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources

Support the Podcast


Subscribe + Leave a Review: Don’t miss an episode! Find We’re Going There on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.


Stay Connected: Join the community today. https://www.biancajuarezofficial.com/ 


WGT Email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org


Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@BiancaJuarezOfficial

Thank You to Our Sponsors - We’re Going There is Sponsored by:


HomeChef: For a limited time, get 50% off and Free Shipping on your first box! Go to HomeChef.com/GOINGTHERE.


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