The Twenties Detox

You are not one person. You are your parents' version, your best friend's version, your coworker's version, and none of them fully capture who you are. So why are you spending your entire twenties trying to control something that was never actually controllable?
In this episode, I am getting into why we take things so personally, from evolutionary wiring to childhood conditioning to the stories different cultures teach us about our own worth. We are talking about the difference between defending your identity and defending your ego, the blue hair theory, and the LET THEM mindset that changed how I move through the world. This is the detox of finally letting people misunderstand you.
This one is for you if you replay conversations for days, if you have ever assumed someone disliked you over one look, or if you are ready to stop managing everyone else's perception of you.

in this video…
00:30 introduction
03:33 greece story + we're caring for unlikely reasons
07:37 how this is damaging relationships
09:29 we care because we're trying to protect our identity
10:08 cultural, psychological + environmental factors
12:07 evolutionary factors
13:33 the danger of seeking approval in your 20s
14:43 high school experience + blue hair theory16:60 recap!
18:57 people in your close circle
20:55 life is too precious to live it for others
22:20 next steps!

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For my 100th episode I think it's time that I share the ultimate detox message for our generation. 

Although it might be painful to admit… maybe our parents were right? Maybe it is our phones. Specifically, social media. 

If you’ve been listening for a while, you know my complicated relationship with social media. I’ve always felt like a bit of a hypocrite: promoting the podcast and making a living as a social media manager on the very apps that drains me. While there are amazing creators out there, these apps were ultimately built using psychological manipulation. They are no longer just tools for connection; they are engines built to influence and sell to us.

In this episode I share my honest thoughts about social media, the psychology of how it’s perpetuating common pain points of feeling “lost” or “behind” in our twenties. I also share some strategies to find a balance with this app (if you’re not convinced to write it off, lol)

Lastly, I encourage you to lean into what your gut is telling you while listening to this video. Only *you* will know what your form of balance is.

Okay, let's get into it.

in this video…

00:00 introduction
02:45 the evolution of instagram
05:35 social media is modern marketing
09:50 the delicacy of our twenties
10:47 yes, it affects our attention span
11:05 mental noise: scrolling is messing up our values & opinions
12:35 it's perpetuating feelings of being "behind" and "lost"
13:45 reflection. how do you consistently feel?
15:10 quick recap
15:38 we can't be bored anymore
16:13 so, why do we keep using it?
20:52 strategies & mindsets to find a balance with social media
26:05 final thoughts

how to support me (so I can keep posting!)…

1. Buy my a coffee: buymeacoffee.com/thetwentiesdetox

2. Get my seasonal workbook: A 4-part workbook you can use every year to plan your goals in alignment with nature’s seasons. https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/align-with-the-seasons-guide

more resources…

The Twenties Detox Newsletter
https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/newsletter#subscribe 

Reconnect with your values
https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/

mentioned in this video…

You Need to Be Bored. Here's Why.
https://youtu.be/orQKfIXMiA8?si=Xe1eSno3ZD25HRnJ

The Social Dilemma (2020)

For the last five years, I’ve meditated almost every single day.

Although highly requested... I was so intimidated to make this video. It is incredibly hard to put five years of deep, soul-shifting lessons into words without sounding cliché. But so many of you have been asking about my practice, so I wanted to finally sit down and try to extract my biggest lessons.

Grab a cup of tea, get comfy, and let’s chat. This is a longer one!! I’m sharing how this daily practice completely saved my mental health, my biggest struggles, and the 10 lessons that changed how I view the world. Whether you’re a total beginner looking for simple mindfulness tips, or you’ve been on a self-improvement journey for years, I hope this helps you let go of the pressure, stop watching the clock, and just reconnect with who you really are.

I hope you enjoy!!

In this video: 

0:00 introduction
2:00 how i learned about meditation
3:30 meditation anchors you in the present
5:40 time is the hindrance
8:30 There is no “success" with meditation
10:48 what to do when your thoughts are racing
13:15 the importance of breathwork
14:13 *why* we have racing thoughts (science)
18:40 meditation puts a pause on the threat system 
23:58 how to separate yourself from your thoughts
25:39 You need time to realize you don't need time
26:27 Start with meditation apps. But your breath is the greatest teacher.
28:27 my favourite types of meditations
30:51 Final thoughts

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There was a specific summer where I stopped fighting the season and started actually listening to it. And honestly, everything shifted after that. 🌞
In this episode, I am getting into what it really means to live seasonally, and specifically what summer is asking of you right now. We are talking about Q2 reflections, why summer is actually one of the best times to pivot instead of push harder, how social media can quietly pull you away from your own values if you are not paying attention, and the gardening analogy that completely changed how I think about goals.
This episode is part of the Seasonal Living Series, and it might be the most grounding one yet!! This one is for you if you have been feeling a shift in your energy lately and you are not quite sure what to do with it.

In this video:
00:30 A big thank you!!
01:25 Intro to seasonal living
04:07 Q2 Reflections!
07:09 Social media influencers and summer
08:41 Why it's okay to not always have a strategy
10:53 Summer is a time to pivot
14:48 Weeding out distractions!
16:22 How to live seasonally: the workbook
18:22 Doubling down on what's working!
21:42 Final thoughts

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Workbook, a 40+ page seasonal roadmap to grow without the burnout: ⁠https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/align-with-the-seasons-guide

books mentioned (affiliate link, win-win)
Fourth Wing Series

For the people who get angry easily. See red. Little things might trigger them. You might even feel ashamed afterwards. You’re not alone, this won’t be forever, but there is a REASON behind it.

I couldn’t fit a video episode in this week, but didn’t want to leave you hanging!! I have been podcasting for about 3 years now, and although I’ve improved…there’s a few golden episodes in there that didn’t get their spotlight. This episode is one of them. I hope you enjoy!

Back to video episodes next week.