The Sabrina Zohar Show

In this episode, Sabrina breaks down self-abandonment in dating and relationships, why losing yourself often gets mislabeled as love, and how chronic people-pleasing, codependency, and anxious attachment actually form. Using psychology, neuroscience, and attachment theory, she explains differentiation of self, emotional fusion, and how the nervous system drives self-betrayal, protest behavior, and fear of abandonment in romantic relationships.

You’ll learn how to choose yourself without blowing up your relationship, stop outsourcing emotional regulation, set boundaries without guilt, and reconnect to your intuition versus anxiety. This episode is essential for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety, overgiving, losing their voice in dating, or repeating unhealthy relationship patterns.

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Chapters

00:00 – Are You Losing Yourself in Love?

03:05 – When “Compromise” Is Self-Betrayal

06:00 – Why You Fuse in Relationships

08:55 – Codependency Isn’t the Real Issue

11:55 – Anxiety vs Intuition in Dating

14:55 – Why Your Nervous System Panics

18:10 – How Self-Abandonment Shows Up

21:50 – Boundaries Without Losing Love

24:50 – How to Choose Yourself Safely

28:05 – The Fusion Check (Real-Time Tool)

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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In this episode, Sabrina sits down with dating expert Damona Hoffman to unpack how fairy tales, rom-coms, and modern dating apps fuel obsession, fantasy, and anxious attachment. They break down why texting chemistry, dopamine loops, and “potential” keep people stuck in confusing dating dynamics—and how to shift from chasing sparks to choosing emotional safety, clarity, and real connection.

If you’re tired of mixed signals, hot-and-cold behavior, situationships, or questioning someone’s attachment style, this conversation reframes dating through grounded psychology and nervous system awareness. You’ll learn how to stop romanticizing unavailable partners, identify emotional unavailability early, and date with intention instead of fantasy—so you can build a healthy, secure relationship rooted in reality, not wishful thinking.

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If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 – Dating Myths & Fairy Tale Fantasy

04:18 – Obsessing Over Potential vs Reality

08:12 – Texting, Dopamine & False Intimacy

13:05 – Good Morning Texts & Anxiety Loops

18:02 – Why Sparks Don’t Equal Compatibility

23:11 – Emotional Unavailability Explained

28:07 – Mixed Signals & Hot-Cold Behavior

33:02 – Attachment Styles vs Real Behavior

38:06 – Emotional Intimacy & Secure Love

42:10 – Dating With Clarity, Not Fantasy

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When someone comes on strong early, it can feel like intimacy—but it’s often just intensity. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down love bombing, future faking, and why fast-moving connections activate dopamine and attachment wounds rather than real emotional safety. She explains what’s actually happening in your brain when chemistry feels overwhelming and why those relationships tend to crash just as fast.

You’ll learn the most common signs of love bombing, why stable connection can feel boring at first, and how anxious attachment keeps people hooked on the high. Sabrina also shares the Reality Check Pause, a practical tool to slow down, spot red flags early, and build relationships based on consistency, trust, and choice—not urgency or fear of being alone.

If you’re struggling with breakups or repeating unhealthy relationship cycles, this episode breaks down why heartbreak hurts so deeply and how healing actually begins.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!

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Chapters

0:00 Love Bombing vs Real Intimacy

3:10 Intensity Feels Like Connection

6:05 Dopamine and Dating Chemistry

9:30 Why Fast Relationships Crash

12:40 Texting, Attention, and Control

16:05 Future Faking Red Flags

19:20 Intermittent Reinforcement Explained

23:10 Why Healthy Love Feels Boring

27:00 The Reality Check Pause Tool

31:00 How to Slow Down Without Losing Them

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Heartbreak can feel like the end of everything, but it’s often the beginning of healing. In this raw episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina shares the three biggest heartbreaks of her life and what they taught her about anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, limerence, and self-worth. From childhood trauma to toxic relationships and loss, this episode explores how heartbreak shapes our dating patterns and beliefs about love.

If you’re struggling with breakups or repeating unhealthy relationship cycles, this episode breaks down why heartbreak hurts so deeply and how healing actually begins.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 Heartbreak and Healing Journey

03:10 Childhood Trauma and Attachment

06:25 Emotional Neglect Core Wounds

09:40 How Trauma Shapes Dating Patterns

13:05 Limerence and Anxious Attachment

17:10 Toxic Relationships and Manipulation

21:45 Breakups, Grief, and No Contact

25:30 Losing Yourself in Relationships

29:00 Healing Core Beliefs and Self Worth

32:20 Choosing Emotionally Safe Love

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Three years ago, Sabrina Zohar hit rock bottom after losing everything she thought defined her. In this raw anniversary episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, she reflects on the journey from heartbreak, identity collapse, and losing her sense of direction to rebuilding her life through self-trust, nervous system healing, and emotional growth. This episode explores grief, attachment patterns, worthiness, and what happens when the path you were certain about disappears.

Joined by her partner (romantic and business) Ryan halfway through, Sabrina unpacks anxious and avoidant dynamics, boundaries, communication, and why healing doesn’t mean never being triggered again. If you’ve ever felt lost after a breakup, attached to outcomes, or afraid of being seen, this episode is a reminder that you’re not broken. You’re becoming.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 – When Your Life Doesn’t Go the Way You Planned

03:12 – Losing Your Identity After a Breakup or Career Collapse

07:05 – Hitting Rock Bottom and Rebuilding From Scratch

10:48 – Why We Attach Our Worth to Relationships and Success

14:32 – Healthy Relationships Still Trigger Your Nervous System

18:10 – Anxious and Avoidant Attachment in Real Life

22:05 – Boundaries, Communication, and Emotional Safety

26:18 – Why Being “Too Much” Was Never the Problem

30:12 – Letting Go of Control, Validation, and External Approval

34:40 – Healing Without Perfection or Constant Positivity

38:20 – Final Takeaways: Self-Trust, Growth, and Becoming Yourself

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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