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What if you love the person you married, but the first year looks nothing like you expected?

The honeymoon is awkward. Sex isn't what you imagined. One of you is focused on providing while the other is wondering why you feel so far apart. And the things you most need to talk about feel like the hardest things to say out loud.

In this episode, Alley and Elijah Vallotton are back with Elles and Daniel for an honest conversation about the honeymoon and the first year of marriage. We're sharing what surprised us, where we got disconnected, and the conversations that helped us find our way back to each other.

We'll talk about:
What happens when your honeymoon doesn't live up to the expectations
Why waiting until marriage doesn't mean sex will feel effortless right away
The difference between having sex and being able to talk about it
How the pressure to provide can crowd out emotional connection
The fears we kept to ourselves and what happened when we finally said them
Learning to hear something hard without immediately taking it personally
Why repairing after an argument is a skill you have to build
How trusted mentors helped us make sense of what we were experiencing
Being a safe place for your spouse while having support of your own
Where to start if talking about your inner world doesn't come naturally

If you're single, dating, or engaged, this is a look at the parts of marriage you might not hear about before the wedding. And if you're newly married and finding it harder than you expected, we hope these stories give you a place to start talking. You don't have to have marriage figured out on day one, and you don't have to figure it out alone.

Let's talk about it 👇
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Links:
Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution
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God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

You both want to get married. But have you talked about what life together will actually look like?

Who handles the money? How involved are your families? What happens when one of you is struggling with your faith? And are you quietly hoping something about the person you’re dating will change after the wedding?

In this episode, we’re walking through 16 questions every couple should ask before saying “I do,” covering faith, family, finances, everyday life, and sex. These are practical conversations that can help you understand what you’re each expecting before you build a life together.

We’ll talk about:
What a Christ-centered marriage looks like in everyday life

How to talk through differences in beliefs and convictions

Supporting each other through seasons of doubt

Family patterns you want to keep or change

Setting expectations around in-laws, holidays, and parenting

Getting honest about debt, spending, and sharing money

What you expect your lifestyle to look like after the wedding

Dividing household responsibilities and the mental load

Making room for time together, friendships, and alone time

Talking honestly about sex, pornography, and sexual history

Whether you’re secretly expecting your partner to change after marriage

If you’re seriously dating or engaged, watch this together. Pause after each section, ask the questions, and give each other room to answer honestly. The more you understand about each other now, the more intentionally you can prepare for marriage.

Let’s talk about it 👇
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Links:
Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution
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Connect with us:
➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc
➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/
➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev
➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.com

Miss our last podcast episode?
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God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What do you do when your dating pool feels tiny and everyone knows everyone?

Your ex is still at church. Your crush is friends with someone you dated. Everyone knows you went out before you’ve even decided if you like each other. And if it doesn’t work out, you’re probably still going to see them next Sunday.

Dating in a small Christian community can get complicated fast.

In this episode, three single Christians in their twenties get honest about what it’s actually like to date when your options feel limited and your dating life isn’t exactly private.

We’ll talk about:
Whether the Christian dating pool really is too small

Why dating in a tight church community can feel so intimidating

What to do when everyone has dated everyone

Whether dating a friend’s ex should be off-limits

How to handle seeing an ex in the same community

Who should actually get a voice in your dating decisions

Whether a small dating pool makes people settle or become too picky

Why Christians keep saying “there’s no one here”

How fear of awkwardness keeps people from ever asking someone out

What to do when a date doesn’t work out but you still have to see each other

Why you shouldn’t let other people’s opinions keep you from pursuing a good relationship

A small dating pool doesn’t have to be a dead dating pool.It might just require more courage, maturity, and willingness to handle relationships with honor.

So if you’ve ever looked around your church, small town, ministry school, or friend group and thought, “There is literally no one left,” this episode is for you.

Let’s talk about it 👇
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Links:
Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution 
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Connect with us:
➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc
➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/
➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev
➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.com

Miss our last podcast episode?
Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/ib2TubrJglo 

God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Everyone gives marriage advice. Very few people tell you what they wish they would’ve known before they got married. What surprised them? What got harder than they expected? What got better? What do decades of marriage teach you that dating never could?

In this episode, three married Christian men answer the questions they wish someone had answered before they said, “I do.”

We’ll talk about:
The biggest lies men believe about marriage before they get married

Whether the first year of marriage is actually the hardest

What every husband loses when he gets married and why it’s worth it

The seasons of marriage no one posts about online

Whether attraction fades or changes over the years

What loving one woman for decades teaches you about commitment

Why so many married men struggle alone

What they wish someone had told them about sex before marriage

How kids completely change your marriage

Practical ways to keep your marriage strong after becoming parents

What they’d tell the guy who’s been dating for years but won’t propose

The qualities every woman should look for in a future husband

Marriage isn’t about finding the perfect person. It’s about becoming the kind of person who knows how to love, sacrifice, communicate, and stay committed through every season.

Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, newly married, or years into marriage, we think this conversation will leave you with a healthier picture of what marriage is really like.

Let’s talk about it 👇
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Links:
Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution 
=============================
Connect with us:
➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc
➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/
➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev
➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.com

Miss our last podcast episode?
Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/t6zHW7kS000 

God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Everyone says, “Date God’s way.” Almost nobody tells you what that actually looks like.

What boundaries did you actually keep? How did you handle physical temptation? When did you have the hard conversations? Did you ever doubt the relationship? And how did you know they were the one?

In this episode, we’re joined by another couple who dated God’s way and are now on the other side of it. Together, we’re pulling back the curtain on what Christian dating looked like behind the scenes.

We’re not glossing over it, or pretending it was easy. Just sharing honest stories about what worked, what was difficult, and what we’d do all over again.

We’ll talk about:
The biggest mistakes Christian couples make with dating boundaries

Why “How far is too far?” is the wrong question

Whether protecting physical boundaries was actually worth it

The hardest conversations every dating couple should have

How much of your past you should share before marriage

What their first major conflict revealed about each other

How to tell the difference between chemistry and character

Whether God really tells you who you’re supposed to marry

What role wise counsel played in their relationships

How they knew they had found the person they wanted to marry

What they wish they could tell their dating-season selves

This episode isn’t about finding a perfect formula. It’s about learning how to date with wisdom, intentionality, and integrity so you can build the kind of marriage you’re hoping for.

Whether you’re single, dating, or wondering if doing relationships God’s way is really worth it, this conversation is for you.

Let’s talk about it 👇
=============================
Links:
Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution 
=============================
Connect with us:
➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc
➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/
➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev
➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.com

Miss our last podcast episode?
Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/VYvzBXidMck 

God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.