I Wish You Knew

Disembodiment rarely announces itself. It can look like fatigue, unexplained aches, trouble concentrating, or difficulty feeling close to the people around you. In this episode of I Wish You Knew, Adam Lane Smith sits down with embodiment expert Mark Walsh to unpack what happens when we stop listening to the body, and how rebuilding that connection can help you feel more present, connected, and human again.

💬 Ready to work with Adam and his team? Apply here: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/27

📋 Learn your attachment style - take Adam’ free quiz: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/27 

👥 Free Secure Attachment Community - 7k+ members: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-free?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/27

🔒 Join the inner circle - get weekly live training from Adam and his Coaching Team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/27

In this episode you will learn:

1- Why the body whispers, then sings, then screams, and what it costs you to keep turning the volume up over it
2- What Mark calls the psychological apocalypse, and why the collapse may have already happened 
3- The four connections modernity severed: to the body, to community, to nature, and to a higher power 
4- Why treating yourself as a machine is the same habit that lets you treat everyone else as one
5- What co-regulation actually is, and why it’s more than therapy
6- Why chasing pleasure as a cure tends to land people somewhere worse
7- Where to start: one embodied practice you can fall in love with, and how to pick the one that fits what you're missing

You don’t need to think your way back into connection. Sometimes the way back to yourself, other people, and the world around you starts with learning to inhabit your own body again.

Mark is an expert in embodied learning, emotional intelligence, and practical psychology. His work focuses on helping individuals and organizations improve their performance and well-being through the mind-body connection. He has a fascinating background, with extensive training in martial arts, mindfulness, and various psychological disciplines. Mark has also taught in over 50 countries, including working with the UN and humanitarian projects in war zones. 

📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro
𝕏 : https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/
🎥 https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam/videos
🧵Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam 

Mark Walsh: 
🎥YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Theembodimentchannel
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/warkmalsh/ 
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/embodimentunlimited 
🌐 Website: https://embodimentunlimited.com/

Adam Lane Smith celebrates three years of the I Wish You Knew podcast by reading your wildest comments, answering your most pressing questions, and sharing what he has learned from three years of conversations with guests from every walk of life.

In this special episode Adam reflects on the shows that surprised him most, the moments that changed his thinking, and what he believes the future of men and women in relationships actually looks like. No guest. No script. Just Adam, your comments, and three years worth of things he wishes you knew.

Looking for more way to learn from Adam?

💬 Ready to transform your attachment? Work directly with me & my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/22iwyk

👉 ADAM'S YOUTUBE LECTURES: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam?sub_confirmation=1

👉 FREE SKILL DEMONSTRATION - Turning Back the Damage: The Live Relationship Repair Session. See what secure communication and real relationship repair look like in action with Colin Safranek and Alyssa Mullen, and register free to watch live on August 26th.
https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/skill-demo-registration?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/22iwyk

👉 Watch my latest Masterclass replay to learn The Pattern Breaker Method and the secure repair skills that can help rebuild emotional safety, reduce defensiveness, and create meaningful change https://youtube.com/live/uF5WfsiBVyU 

👉 Ready for more? My Secure Circle Plus community has it all - live training sessions, masterclasses, skill demos, and more: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/22iwyk

💬 Ready to transform your attachment? Work directly with me & my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/22iwyk

📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: 
https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/22iwyk

📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/22iwyk

Connect with me on your second preferred platform:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro
X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/

He was CIO at Dell managing a billion and a half dollar budget. And he could not tell if he was valued more than the piece of furniture he was sitting in. Most people are living with that same feeling without knowing what it is.

Adam Lane Smith sits down with John R. Miles, author of The Mattering Effect, to break down why the question “do I even matter?” is driving a global crisis and what it takes to build a life where your presence is felt rather than performed.

What you will learn in this video:

1- Why loneliness burnout and depression are not separate problems but symptoms of the same root cause 
2- Why mattering is social immunity and what happens when it disappears 
3- Why insecure attachment trains people to believe they are only worth what they produce 
4- The four stepping stones from internal worth to impact and why most people never get past the first 
5- Why belonging and mattering are completely different and why confusing them keeps people stuck 
6- What it means to build a life where your presence changes the room

👉 FREE SKILL DEMONSTRATION - Turning Back the Damage: The Live Relationship Repair Session. See what secure communication and real relationship repair look like in action with Colin Safranek and Alyssa Mullen, and register free to watch live on August 26th.
https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/skill-demo-registration?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/20

👉 Watch the replay to learn The Pattern Breaker Method and the secure repair skills that can help rebuild emotional safety, reduce defensiveness, and create meaningful change https://youtube.com/live/uF5WfsiBVyU 

💬 Ready to transform your attachment? Work directly with me & my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/20

📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: 
https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/20

📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/20

Connect with me on your second preferred platform:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro
X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/

John R Miles Socials:  
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/john_r_miles/ , Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnrmiles.c0m , https://x.com/John_RMiles , LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnmileshumanperformanceexpert/ ,

Most women use therapy as a metric for whether a man is ready for marriage. Most couples therapists are operating from a framework that was never designed with men in mind. And one licensed professional clinical counselor has seen enough that he is leaving the field entirely.

Adam Lane Smith sits down with Jeff Saint James, licensed professional clinical counselor and men's issues specialist, to break down what modern therapy is getting wrong about men, why couples therapy is failing husbands at an alarming rate, and what women need to understand about the men they love that nobody in the mental health field is telling them.

What you will learn in this video:
1- Why therapy as a metric for a healthy man is one of the most misleading filters women are using today 
2- Why the couples therapy field is operating from assumptions that actively harm men and what those assumptions are 
3- Why paternity fraud is one of the most underreported and destructive forces in modern relationships 
4- Why men in survival mode cannot express their needs and what happens to a relationship when that continues for years 
5- What masculine leadership actually looks like and why it is not what most women were told to be afraid of 
6- Why gratitude and respect do more for a marriage than almost any therapeutic intervention 
7- Why men and women are suffering in the same relationships without either one being able to see what the other is carrying

If you love a man and want to understand what is actually happening inside him, this is the conversation that will change how you see him.

Jeff St. James is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), relationship strategist, and host of the Ask a Brotha podcast. Combining clinical expertise with candid cultural commentary, he helps people build emotionally safe, accountable relationships while tackling modern dating, emotional safety, and family dynamics.

👉 Reserve your spot for this FREE masterclass and learn the conversation and secure repair skills that help you lead change, even when your partner has given up. https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/masterclass-signup?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/13

👉 Jeff St. James is a licensed clinical counselor in the process of leaving the therapy field because it keeps allying against the men it was supposed to help. If you want to understand what healthy masculine leadership actually looks like, the FREE Secure Circle is where that conversation keeps going. Join free: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-free?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/13

👉 Too much couples therapy puts the man in the villain seat before the work even begins. Secure Circle Plus takes a different approach: coaches hold both partners accountable while teaching the attachment skills that rebuild connection through courses, practicums, and direct Q&A. Upgrade: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/13

💬 Ready to transform your attachment? Work directly with me & my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/13

📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: 
https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/13

📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/13

Connect with me on your second preferred platform:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro
X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/

You are genuinely loved. Your partner is loyal. And you still cannot breathe out and relax all the way. That is not a character flaw. It is a biochemical problem. And it has a biochemical answer.

Adam Lane Smith sits down with Dr. Sue Carter, the world's leading expert on oxytocin and vasopressin bonding, to break down exactly why some people cannot feel safe even when they are safe, what chronic fear does to the body over a lifetime, and what the science of love hormones actually tells us about how human beings bond, heal, and survive.

What you will learn in this video:

1- Why you can be genuinely loved on paper and still be physically unable to feel that safety and what is actually happening in the body when that occurs
 2- Why oxytocin is an extraordinary molecule and a terrible drug and what that distinction means for every person buying oxytocin spray
 3- Why stress is not inherently bad and why shared challenge is actually one of the most powerful bonding mechanisms available to couples
 4- Why the body encodes negative experiences differently than positive ones and what that means for people trying to heal
 5- Why fathers who help raise their children live measurably longer and what the research says about sociality and longevity
 6- Why novelty and shared experience produce more bonding than sitting on a couch together ever will
 7- Why love connection and oxytocin are nature's medicine and why you cannot buy them on the internet

If you have ever wondered why safety feels impossible to feel even when it surrounds you, this conversation will give you the science behind what is happening and what can actually change it.

👉 Join my Free Attachment Community - The Secure Circle. You get exclusive lives, videos, access to my team, and more! https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-free?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/6

👉 Ready for more? Upgrade to Secure Circle Plus for the complete attachment program, including courses, live masterclasses, coach-led practicums, workshops, Q&As, a private community, and session archive. Join today: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/secure-circle-plus?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/6

💬 Ready to transform your attachment? Work directly with me & my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/6

📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ - Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: 
https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/6

📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=8/6

Connect with me on your second preferred platform:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro
X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/