I Wish You Knew

ADHD, attachment, trauma, anxiety, and stress can look surprisingly similar. So how do you know what you’re actually dealing with?

Adam Lane Smith sits down with psychiatrist Dr. Steven Storage to unpack what ADHD really looks like, how it affects relationships, what a proper assessment involves, and where medication, sleep, nutrition, movement, and behavioral work fit in.

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In this episode you will learn:

1 - Why overlapping symptoms make self-diagnosis unreliable, and what curiosity is actually good for
2 - Why a diagnosis explains behavior without excusing it
3 - How growing up with ADHD features can shape attachment, including through a parent with the same wiring
4 - What the condition involves beyond attention: time blindness, impulse control, task initiation, and thought loops
5 - Where the strengths sit, and what happens when hyperfocus lands somewhere other than the relationship
6 - Why the quiet, high-achieving kid is often missed while the disruptive one is caught early
7 - What a thorough assessment includes, and why medication is one tool rather than the whole plan
8 - Practical systems: the five minute rule, the Eisenhower matrix, timed sprints, and breaking distant goals into visible wins
9 - For parents: why yelling works in the moment and costs you later, and what connection over correction looks like
10 - For partners: written lists over spoken ones, clear targets, shared activity, and time-limited conversations

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Dr. Steven Storage is a doctor at the Amen Clinics in California. He is a diplomate of the Medical Board of California for Physicians and Surgeons and a diplomate in both Child/Adolescent and Adult Psychiatry for the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. He graduated from the University of California, Berkeley, magna cum laude with a degree in molecular and cell biology and earned his medical degree from the University of California, Los Angeles School of Medicine. 

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Trying harder to fix your marriage can leave you exhausted, resentful, and convinced you’re married to a man who doesn’t care. In this episode of I Wish You Knew, Adam Lane Smith sits down with The Surrendered Wife author Laura Doyle to challenge what happens when fear turns into control, why stepping back can give a capable husband room to step forward, and how desire, receptivity, gratitude, and respect can change the dynamic between husband and wife.

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In this episode you will learn:

1- Why overperforming in your marriage can leave you feeling like the only responsible adult
2- What can happen when you stop automatically taking over and give your husband room to contribute
3- Why “he doesn’t care” may not tell the whole story when your husband doesn’t know what would actually make you happy
4- How the phrase “I would love…” communicates a desire without turning it into criticism or a demand
5- Why receiving help, affection, gifts, and care can be difficult for women who are used to handling everything themselves
6- How gratitude can change both the way you see your husband and the way the two of you respond to each other
7- Why respect and a clean apology can restore connection faster than defending or explaining your criticism

You don’t have to carry every responsibility, anticipate every problem, and manage your husband into becoming the partner you want. Sometimes changing the marriage starts with making your desires clear, allowing him the opportunity to respond, receiving what he gives, and noticing what happens when you stop treating control as the only thing keeping your life together.

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Disembodiment rarely announces itself. It can look like fatigue, unexplained aches, trouble concentrating, or difficulty feeling close to the people around you. In this episode of I Wish You Knew, Adam Lane Smith sits down with embodiment expert Mark Walsh to unpack what happens when we stop listening to the body, and how rebuilding that connection can help you feel more present, connected, and human again.

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In this episode you will learn:

1- Why the body whispers, then sings, then screams, and what it costs you to keep turning the volume up over it
2- What Mark calls the psychological apocalypse, and why the collapse may have already happened 
3- The four connections modernity severed: to the body, to community, to nature, and to a higher power 
4- Why treating yourself as a machine is the same habit that lets you treat everyone else as one
5- What co-regulation actually is, and why it’s more than therapy
6- Why chasing pleasure as a cure tends to land people somewhere worse
7- Where to start: one embodied practice you can fall in love with, and how to pick the one that fits what you're missing

You don’t need to think your way back into connection. Sometimes the way back to yourself, other people, and the world around you starts with learning to inhabit your own body again.

Mark is an expert in embodied learning, emotional intelligence, and practical psychology. His work focuses on helping individuals and organizations improve their performance and well-being through the mind-body connection. He has a fascinating background, with extensive training in martial arts, mindfulness, and various psychological disciplines. Mark has also taught in over 50 countries, including working with the UN and humanitarian projects in war zones. 

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Adam Lane Smith celebrates three years of the I Wish You Knew podcast by reading your wildest comments, answering your most pressing questions, and sharing what he has learned from three years of conversations with guests from every walk of life.

In this special episode Adam reflects on the shows that surprised him most, the moments that changed his thinking, and what he believes the future of men and women in relationships actually looks like. No guest. No script. Just Adam, your comments, and three years worth of things he wishes you knew.

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He was CIO at Dell managing a billion and a half dollar budget. And he could not tell if he was valued more than the piece of furniture he was sitting in. Most people are living with that same feeling without knowing what it is.

Adam Lane Smith sits down with John R. Miles, author of The Mattering Effect, to break down why the question “do I even matter?” is driving a global crisis and what it takes to build a life where your presence is felt rather than performed.

What you will learn in this video:

1- Why loneliness burnout and depression are not separate problems but symptoms of the same root cause 
2- Why mattering is social immunity and what happens when it disappears 
3- Why insecure attachment trains people to believe they are only worth what they produce 
4- The four stepping stones from internal worth to impact and why most people never get past the first 
5- Why belonging and mattering are completely different and why confusing them keeps people stuck 
6- What it means to build a life where your presence changes the room

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