Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto

• 78: Why Your Child Lies (and How All The Parenting Advice We Get Is WRONG!!)

  🚨 Your child just lied. STOP. Ignore all the advice you’ve ever been given! 🚨Have you ever caught your child in a lie and thought, “Why would they lie about something so small??” Or maybe you worry about your teen lying about the big stuff, vaping, sneaking out, or who they’re really with at night? You’re not alone.Here’s the truth (lol, pun intended): Lying isn’t just a ‘kid problem’, it’s human nature.You’ve done it, I’ve done it, we all have. But the way we react when our kids lie will shape their honesty for life. And spoiler alert: Most of us are doing it wrong.In this episode, I’m breaking down:✅ The real reasons kids lie (hint: fear, shame, and disappointment play a huge role!)✅ What NOT to do when you catch your child lying (you can totally avoid these common mistakes)✅ How to actually build a home where honesty feels safe, not scary 🩷Because let’s be real. Your child WILL mess up. It’s inevitable. The question is: Will they trust you enough to tell you the truth?It's a solo one today, you've just got me 😉 Enjoy!***If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at [email protected] and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community! 🎉➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids Hi! I am an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives! Book a consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements. 💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.comOr stalk me on the socials...Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parentFB: fb.com/stephpinto Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• 77: Parenting Neurodivergent Kids Without Punishment or Power Struggles with Marissa Taylor

  This week, I’m joined by the incredible Marissa Taylor, an Aussie, a passionate advocate for neurodivergent children and a mum to five neurodivergent kiddos.She shares how emotional intelligence has completely changed her parenting and why so many neurodivergent children are being missed, dismissed, or even punished in schools - simply for being themselves.We also dive into:✨ The lens shift parents and teachers need to truly support neurodivergent kids (hello, Dr. Ross Greene!)✨ Why the mainstream school system often fails kids emotionally and academically✨ Why so many parents are turning to homeschooling (and whether it might be right for you)✨ PDA: Pathological Demand Avoidance (or Persistent Drive for Autonomy!), what it is and how to parent a PDA kiddo✨ How Marissa courageously navigates burnout as an ND family - such profound message in there.This episode is packed with insights, eye-openers, and of course emotional intelligence at the heart of it all. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or just someone who wants to understand neurodiversity better, you neeeed this conversation in your life.💡 Ready to rethink what’s possible for your child? Let's go.Connect with Marissa here:PDA Home Education AU: https://pdahomeedau.com/*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at [email protected] and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community! 🎉➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids Hi! I am an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives! Book a consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements. 💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.comOr stalk me on the socials...Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parentFB: fb.com/stephpinto Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• 76: The Legendary Alfie Kohn on Time-Outs, Accidental Manipulation and 'Motivating' Kids.

  Ok - big moment you guys. I’m excited (and somewhat embarrassed!) to share this special conversation with you—one that originally aired back in 2022 in my Facebook community Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids.Looking back, I can’t help but cringe! I was SO nervous and excited to be speaking with the universal expert on parenting, education, and human behaviour: Alfie Kohn.Let’s just say I wasn’t as polished or professional as I am now… but the insights and wisdom? They’re just as powerful today as they were then.Alfie Kohn, renowned author of Punished by Rewards, No Contest, The Homework Myth, and my personal favourite, Unconditional Parenting, (plus many others!) brings his groundbreaking research and passion for progressive education to this chat.In this episode, we dive into:🔍 Why rewards can be just as harmful as punishments for children.💡 What people really mean when they say, "I want to motivate my child" (spoiler: it’s often about compliance).🎭 The hidden problems with praise—especially those high-pitched, "good job!" moments.🚫 The true impact of time-outs and forcible isolation on kids’ emotional well-being.One of the most profound ideas we explored? The belief that we need to reinforce kids to behave a certain way. This comes from a hidden assumption that children aren’t naturally inclined to do well on their own—and it’s time we rethink that.I’m so grateful Alfie agreed to let me share this conversation here on the podcast—it’s one you won’t want to miss.*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at [email protected] and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community! 🎉➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids Hi! I am an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives! Book a consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements. 💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.comOr stalk me on the socials...Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parentFB: fb.com/stephpinto Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• 75: The Truth About Rewards, Stars, Stickers, and Points with Megg Thompson

  Are We Training Kids to Perform? The Truth About Rewards, Behaviour & Connection with Megg Thompson.We’ve all used them—sticker charts, gold stars, rewards for good behaviour. But what if these systems aren’t actually helping kids grow? What if they’re just training them to comply? (And then when we're not around, they stop "performing" because the motivation was never really theirs to begin with...)In this episode, I sit down with Megg Thompson, a former Kindergarten teacher turned neuro-affirming Certified Behavior Consultant and Life Coach, to unpack the real impact of rewards and compliance-based parenting and teaching.We dive into:✨ Why kids "hold it together" at school but melt down at home✨ The hidden problems with reward charts and behavior incentives✨ Why compliance shouldn’t be the goal—and what to focus on instead✨ How traditional discipline alienates neurodivergent and struggling kids✨ What actually works to build cooperation, trust, and connectionMegg brings her signature humour and deep insight to a conversation that will challenge what you think you know about kids’ behaviour.Also, she made me keep in the drunk-squirrel moments she and I had around 22-23 min mark - enjoy listening to us rack our brains when she lost her train of thought!If you're ready to shift from power-over to partnership, ditch the rewards, and start building real, lasting connection with your kids—this episode is a must-listen.Find Megg Thompson here:http://www.instagram.com/meggthompsonbehaviorhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn5Q6ZPasX6ebCZ59ClM4qwhttps://meggthompson.com/*** If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at [email protected] and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions! Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are over 130,000 parents in the community! 🎉➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids Hi! I am an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives! Book a consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements. 💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.comOr stalk me on the socials...Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parentFB: fb.com/stephpinto Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• 74: A Little Rant (The Double Standards in Emotional Intelligence)

  We all want our kids to be emotionally intelligent, right? Buuut are we actually teaching it in a way that helps them thrive?In this episode, I let loose a mini-rant (sorry not sorry) about some common myths and misconceptions that are sending mixed messages about emotions to our kids - without us even realising it.🤔 We tell kids to “calm down” when they’re upset, but do we always model calmness when everything goes wrong?🤔 We expect them to “use their words,” but are we showing them how?🤔 The truth is, emotional intelligence isn’t just something we teach... it’s something our kids learn from us.Join me as I share simple, powerful ideas that can help us guide our kids through big emotions, build REAL connection, and create a home where feelings are understood, not shut down.No guilt, no pressure. Just an honest chat (aka rant) about how we can show up as the emotional leaders our kids need.Let’s rethink the way we teach emotional intelligence - starting today. 💛Share with someone you know might find this helpful or insightful!Steph.***Welcome to the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast,I’m Stephanie Pinto. I’m an Aussie mum of 2, a best-selling author, international speaker and award-winning coach… And I love all things Emotional Intelligence and parenting.Although we’re far from perfect as parents and our kids still have big emotions from time to time, meltdowns are few and far between.Compassion, listening and problem-solving are our go-to strategies when things go sideways, and our home is a really nice place to be.Oh and, our house is a punishment-free zone!!We’re only able to do all of this because we’ve learnt to handle our own emotions, we understand our kids’ emotions and behaviour, and we work together to solve problems as a team.If you have caught some of the episodes I've recorded with my husband Alex, go back to these episodes:Ep 54: Parenting on the Same Page: My Husband’s Journey into Emotional Intelligence.Ep 60: How We Failed As New Parents with Steph and Alex.Ep 64: When Meltdowns Turn Physical - Handling Hitting, Throwing, Kicking, And Keeping Your Cool.Follow me on Insta @emotionally.intelligent.parentHave you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 130,000+ parents in the community! 🎉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.💡 Head to https://www.stephaniepinto.com/ Or stalk me on the socials...Insta: https://www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent/FB: fb.com/stephpintoFB Business: fb.com/stephaniepintoeqcoach Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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