Be Kind, Don’t Panic, and Have Faith: The Secret to Lasting Love with Bruce Chalmer
Betrayal cuts deep, leaving us feeling lost, hurt, and questioning everything. But what if there was a path forward-one that could not only help us heal, but emerge stronger than ever before?In a powerful conversation on LOA Today, host Walt Thiessen sat down with renowned couples therapist Bruce Chalmer to uncover the secret to navigating the turmoil of betrayal and learning to trust again.From the very start, Bruce's wisdom and compassion shone through. When Walt asked Jody Lynn if she had ever experienced betrayal, Bruce acknowledged just how common this painful experience is. "Anybody over the age of 16-20, if you're a grown up, you've probably been betrayed at one time or another," he shared.Bruce went on to explain that as a couples therapist of 30 years, he's seen firsthand how betrayal, often in the form of infidelity, is at the root of so much relationship turmoil. But he's also witnessed the incredible resilience of the human spirit, as he's learned from his clients "how you can get through...the turmoil and learn to trust again."The key, Bruce revealed, lies in the often-misunderstood concept of forgiveness. Rather than seeing it as restoring a relationship, he defines forgiveness as an "inside job" - a way of letting go of the anger, hurt and obsession that only serves to harm ourselves. As Walt shared his own experience of betrayal in his divorce, Bruce offered a powerful 3-step process for finding this inner forgiveness:Forgive yourself. Recognize that you were doing the best you could with the information you had at the time.Forgive the person who betrayed you. Understand that they, too, were likely doing the best they could."Forgive God" - or accept the rightness of reality, even when it's painful.Jody Lynn resonated deeply with this approach, sharing how watching her mother struggle to forgive had "destroy[ed] lots of relationships." She realized that true healing only came when she began to forgive her mother and herself.Throughout the conversation, Bruce and Walt highlighted the nonlinear, messy nature of the healing process. As Bruce put it, "Real life is much more complicated than anybody's three steps." But it's in embracing that complexity, and having the courage to face our pain head-on, that true transformation can occur.As Walt so eloquently expressed, Bruce's work is touching the lives of countless people he'll never meet - people finding the strength to heal after betrayal and reclaim their lives. On behalf of all of them, Walt offered a heartfelt thank you to Bruce, reminding us that the greatest gifts are often those we can't see or measure.If you're struggling in the aftermath of betrayal, let Bruce's wisdom be a beacon of hope. The path to forgiveness and trust may not be easy, but it is possible. Take the first step today.LOA Today Episode Page: https://www.loatoday.net/bruce-chalmerBruce Chalmer's Website: https://brucechalmer.com/Follow the LOA Today Podcast: https://www.loatoday.net/follow#loatoday#lawofattraction#manifesting#vibration#podcast#deliberatecreators#Q&A#waltthiessen#jodielynncraven#loatodayapp#Betrayal #Forgiveness #Healing #Relationships #Resilience #Transformation
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