Anger Management: Practical Tools to Control Anger

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Most people think anger management is about calming down after they've already lost control. But if that's all you're focusing on, you're missing the bigger picture.
Lasting anger control isn't built on a single technique. It's built on a set of principles that change how you think about anger, responsibility, communication and self-control. In this episode, I share the 10 rules I've taught clients for more than 30 years to help them gain lasting control over their anger.
You'll learn why awareness is the foundation of anger management, how your thoughts create your emotional reactions, why anger and aggressive behavior are not the same thing, and how taking responsibility for your actions builds stronger relationships. I also explain the tension scale, the importance of listening skills, and why seeking to understand is often more powerful than trying to win an argument.
Whether you've struggled with anger for years or simply want better tools for handling frustration, these 10 rules provide a practical framework you can start applying immediately.
The Anger Management Podcast helps people gain control over destructive anger, stop losing their temper, and create calmer, healthier relationships. Hosted by Alastair Duhs, creator of The Complete Anger Management System and founder of Anger Secrets.
Resources & Next Steps:
Book a free 30-minute phone call
Access the free training on "Breaking The Anger Cycle"
Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.
Have you started feeling more like housemates than partners?
Most relationships don't fall apart because of one big event. They drift apart slowly through dozens of small moments of disconnection. The good news is that the same process can work in reverse.
In this episode, I share Dr. John Gottman's research-backed "Magic Six Hours" framework and the seven simple habits that help couples rebuild connection, intimacy and trust. You'll learn why small daily interactions matter more than grand romantic gestures, how to create meaningful moments of connection throughout the week and the habits that help couples stay emotionally close even during busy seasons of life.
We explore practical strategies including better daily check-ins, expressing appreciation, physical affection, quality time, stress-reducing conversations and weekly relationship reviews that prevent small problems from becoming major sources of resentment.
If you feel like you and your partner have gradually grown apart, this episode will show you how small, consistent actions can help you reconnect and strengthen your relationship.
The Anger Management Podcast helps people gain control over destructive anger, stop losing their temper, and create calmer, healthier relationships. Hosted by Alastair Duhs, creator of The Complete Anger Management System and founder of Anger Secrets.
Resources & Next Steps:
Book a free 30-minute phone call
Access the free training on "Breaking The Anger Cycle"
Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.
Why do the same arguments keep happening over and over again?
Whether it's your partner, your children, a colleague or even a stranger in traffic, recurring anger isn't random. The same situations keep triggering you because of the way you're interpreting them. And until that changes, the pattern usually continues.
In this episode, I share three powerful mindset shifts that can help you break the cycle. You'll learn how practicing acceptance reduces frustration, why empathy softens anger and improves relationships, and how maintaining perspective helps you stop turning small issues into major conflicts.
Through real-world examples and practical strategies, you'll discover how to respond differently to the situations that repeatedly push your buttons. These aren't quick fixes, but they are proven skills that can dramatically reduce anger and help you create calmer, healthier relationships.
If you're tired of having the same argument again and again, this episode will help you understand what's really driving the pattern - and what to do about it.
The Anger Management Podcast helps people gain control over destructive anger, stop losing their temper, and create calmer, healthier relationships. Hosted by Alastair Duhs, creator of The Complete Anger Management System and founder of Anger Secrets.
Resources & Next Steps:
Book a free 30-minute phone call
Access the free training on "Breaking The Anger Cycle"
Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.
Your partner is upset. You want to help. But somehow, everything you say seems to make things worse.
The problem usually isn't that you don't care. It's that most people were never taught what their partner actually needs in those moments. Before advice, reassurance or solutions can help, your partner needs to feel understood.
In this episode, I share four simple communication skills that can transform difficult conversations. You'll learn how to use minimal encouragers to show you're listening, ask questions that deepen connection, reflect back what you've heard so your partner feels understood, and use positive feedback to create emotional safety.
These skills may sound simple, but they can dramatically improve communication, reduce conflict, and help your partner feel supported instead of dismissed. They're also some of the most effective tools I teach couples who want to strengthen their relationship and feel closer to each other.
If you've ever wondered what to say when your partner is upset, this episode will give you a practical step-by-step approach you can start using today.
The Anger Management Podcast helps people gain control over destructive anger, stop losing their temper, and create calmer, healthier relationships. Hosted by Alastair Duhs, creator of The Complete Anger Management System and founder of Anger Secrets.
Resources & Next Steps:
Book a free 30-minute phone call
Access the free training on "Breaking The Anger Cycle"
Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.
If you've ever promised yourself that this time would be different - only to find yourself losing your temper again a few weeks later- you're not alone.
The problem usually isn't a lack of commitment. It's that most people have never been taught the skills that actually help them control anger. In this episode, I explain why trying harder isn't enough and reveal the three essential skills that create lasting change.
You'll learn how to recognise your early warning signs before anger takes over, how positive self-talk and time-outs can stop escalation in the moment, and why changing the way you think about difficult situations is often the key to long-term anger control. I also explain how better communication and active listening help repair relationships and prevent recurring conflict.
If you've struggled with anger for years and started wondering whether real change is possible, this episode will show you why it is—and how to get started.
The Anger Management Podcast helps people gain control over destructive anger, stop losing their temper, and create calmer, healthier relationships. Hosted by Alastair Duhs, creator of The Complete Anger Management System and founder of Anger Secrets.
Resources & Next Steps:
Book a free 30-minute phone call
Access the free training on "Breaking The Anger Cycle"
Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System