Grappling with Fatherhood

Episode 32 of Grappling with Fatherhood is all about the myths we pretend to believe—like black belts always know what they’re doing, or dads have unlimited patience (spoiler: neither is true). Blake and Uday pull apart the gap between the polished version of Jiu Jitsu and parenting that people imagine, and the actual day-to-day reality: getting smashed on the mats, bribing your kids with snacks, and realizing “dad strength” has less to do with muscle and more to do with carrying six bags of groceries in one trip. Expect plenty of laughs, some uncomfortable truths, and the reminder that the messy version is the one worth embracing.

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In this episode of Grappling with Fatherhood, we dive deep into the real meaning of self-defense — not just as a physical skill, but as a mindset we can pass on to our kids.

We explore:

How to teach our children the why behind self-defense — building confidence without aggression

Strategies for navigating bullying — when to step in, when to listen, and how to empower kids to handle conflict

What it means to model that restraint as a father and practitioner

Personal stories from the mats and the playground that reflect the daily balancing act of being strong and safe

Whether you're raising little white belts or just trying to raise kids who know their worth, this episode offers perspective, tools, and a few hard-earned lessons to carry with you — on and off the mats.

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Actions speak louder than words—both on the mats and at home. In this episode of Grappling with Fatherhood, Uday Malhotra and Blake Kasemeier explore the power of setting an example in parenting and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. From demonstrating discipline and resilience to modeling respect and patience, they discuss how leading by example shapes future generations. Through personal stories and practical insights, they break down what it means to inspire growth in your kids, your training partners, and yourself. Tune in and lead the way.

Every black belt was once a white belt, and every experienced dad was once a first-time father. In this episode of Grappling with Fatherhood, hosts Blake Kasemeier and Uday Malhotra explore what it means to start from scratch—both on the jiu-jitsu mats and in the world of parenting.
Blake and Uday share their personal stories of stepping into the unknown, from the nervous excitement of their first jiu-jitsu class to the overwhelming (and sometimes terrifying) reality of becoming a dad for the first time. They discuss the mix of emotions—fear, frustration, joy, and triumph—that come with learning something completely new and the patience required to grow in both arenas.
Whether you're a new dad, a fresh white belt, or someone navigating the early stages of a new challenge, this episode is for you. Tune in for an honest and inspiring discussion that reminds you: no one starts as an expert, and every stumble is just part of the journey.
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Join Uday Malhotra and Blake Kasemeier on this uplifting episode of "Grappling with Fatherhood" as they celebrate the joy found in both parenting and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. Through heartfelt stories and reflections, they share how small victories—whether on the mats or in family life—bring lasting fulfillment. Uday and Blake discuss the unexpected moments of laughter, connection, and growth that make the challenges worthwhile. Tune in to rediscover the joy in both fatherhood and grappling, and be inspired to savor the journey, every step and roll along the way.