Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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5 de 1222

#1212 - Bringing Up Boys With Dr Arne Rubenstein
Today's episode is taken from the Happy Families Bringing Up Boys Summit. Dr Arne Rubinstein is the author of The Making of Men, and discusses with Justin the idea of a boys “rite of passage”. Get the Bringing Up Boys Summit for $99 (50% off) until March 31st, 2025. The Miss-Connection Summit is also available for $99 until March 31st, 2025. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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#1211 - The Crisis of Modern Boyhood: What Adolescence (Netflix) Reveals
The Netflix series Adolescence isn’t just gripping television—it’s a wake-up call about the hidden struggles of modern boyhood. In this episode, we unpack the toxic pressures shaping boys today, from social media’s influence to the outdated expectations of masculinity. How do we protect our sons from a system that fails them? What can parents do to guide them toward healthy manhood? Let’s explore the hard truths and actionable steps every parent needs to know. KEY POINTS: Adolescence forces us to ask not who committed the crime, but why? The "Man Box" and "Boy Code" are shaping boys in ways many parents don’t realize. Social media is accelerating boys’ exposure to toxic masculinity. Boys like Jamie aren’t born violent—this ecosystem shapes them. Schools, parents, and tech companies all play a role in this crisis. PERSONAL STORIES SHARED: How watching Adolescence made me rewrite parts of my book on raising boys. My conversation with Rebecca Sparrow after losing my nephew to suicide. The moment in the show that left me heartbroken as a parent. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:"Boys believe their eyes more than their ears. If we don’t like the versions of masculinity on offer, it’s up to us to fix that." — Richard Reeves KEY INSIGHTS FOR PARENTS: Our boys are absorbing toxic messages about masculinity online every day. Shame, social rejection, and fragile identity can lead to devastating consequences. We must actively shape a healthier vision of masculinity for our sons. Prevention starts at home—monitor, guide, and connect with your boys. RESOURCES: Adolescence (Netflix series) Richard Reeves’ insights on masculinity The Bringing Up Boys Summit (half price!) Review of Adolescence [Article] ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Monitor your child's online activity and social influences. Have regular conversations about emotions, identity, and self-worth. Limit screen time and encourage real-world friendships. Foster strong adult mentorship in your child's life. Make sure your son hears these three words often: No matter what. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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#1210 - Breaking Free from Beauty Sickness
What happens when the mirror moves from our wall to our head? In this preview of Saturday's interview with Professor Renee Engeln, discover how beauty sickness affects women and girls, why being "ladylike" might mean "stay small," and how to teach children to value their bodies for what they can do rather than how they look. Plus, understand why having two social media accounts might signal a deeper cultural problem. Quote of the Episode: "Bodies are super cool... teach your children about how cool they are, like all the amazing things they can do—not so they can look good to other people." Key Insights: Self-objectification develops when external scrutiny becomes internal. Beauty standards affect women disproportionately. "Ladylike" behaviour often teaches girls to stay small. Social media creates additional appearance pressure. Cultural expectations create exhausting beauty demands. Body appreciation should focus on function over appearance. Simple activities like hugging and smiling show body value. Cultural change is needed more than individual change. Resources Mentioned: Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln Northwestern University research Happy Families Action Steps for Parents: Focus on what bodies can do rather than how they look. Avoid appearance-based conversations. Enable physical exploration and movement. Celebrate body functionality over aesthetics. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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#1209 - Bedtime Battles: When Your Kids Won't Stay in Their Own Beds
Getting enough sleep is the number one parenting hack, but what happens when your children won't cooperate? Historically, humans slept in groups, which explains why your child resists sleeping alone. Breaking free from bedtime battles requires giving children a voice in their routine, changing your perspective on this fleeting season, and doing whatever it takes to ensure everyone gets some rest—even if that means musical beds at 2 a.m. Key Points: Force creates resistance—the more you try to control bedtime, the more children push back. Giving children a voice through family meetings or one-on-one discussions about bedtime helps them buy into routines. Humans historically slept in groups—our desire for children to sleep independently is relatively recent. Changing your perspective to see this as a season that will pass can help reduce frustration. Sometimes the practical solution is simply "do what it takes"—even if that means musical beds at 2 a.m. Dental hygiene matters—parents should help children brush teeth until about age 8. Electric toothbrushes with timers can make tooth brushing more engaging for children. Having the dentist explain the importance of oral hygiene can remove parents from being the sole authority. What feels like an eternal struggle will eventually pass and may even be missed someday. You can give children more autonomy in some areas while maintaining boundaries in others (like dental care). Resources Mentioned: Happy Families website Electric toothbrushes with timers Action Steps for Parents: Have a one-on-one conversation with each child about their ideal bedtime routine, giving them a voice while maintaining reasonable boundaries. Change your perspective—recognize this difficult season is temporary and years from now you might miss these cuddles. Do what it takes to ensure everyone gets sleep, even if that means unorthodox arrangements temporarily. For dental hygiene, use engaging tools like electric toothbrushes and enlist the dentist as an authority figure. Submit your own parenting questions at happyfamilies.com.au or email [email protected]. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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#1208 - Let Them: The Two Words That Will Set You Free from Other People's Drama
Stop trying to control other people's moods, opinions, and behaviours—it's exhausting and impossible. Instead, try Mel Robbins' revolutionary "Let Them Theory" which teaches two simple words—"let them"—to reclaim your power and energy. When you stop obsessing over what others think or do, you finally focus on what matters: your own life. But that's only half the equation. The crucial second step is saying "let me" take action on what I CAN control. # Quote of the Episode: "The truth is other people hold no real power over you unless you give it to them." - Mel Robbins Key Points: The Let Them Theory consists of two parts: "let them" (accepting what others do) and "let me" (choosing your own response). When you stop trying to manage other people's emotions and behaviours, you reclaim your energy. "Let them" doesn't mean being a doormat—it means acknowledging you can't control others. Your happiness is tied to your actions, not someone else's behaviour, opinions, or moods. Hacking your stress response by saying "let them" and taking a breath interrupts your reactivity. Trying to please everyone typically results in pleasing no one and exhausting yourself. The method works for handling difficult colleagues, judgmental family members, and stressful situations. This approach is primarily for adult relationships, not parenting young children who need guidance. Setting boundaries is still important—"let them" doesn't mean accepting harmful behaviour. People-pleasing often leaves you feeling empty and unappreciated despite your best efforts. Resources Mentioned: "The Let Them Theory" by Mel Robbins (New York Times bestseller) Mel Robbins Podcast Happy Families website Action Steps for Parents: Next time someone upsets you, say "let them" silently to yourself, then take a deep breath Follow with "let me" and choose a response that serves your wellbeing Identify one relationship where you're trying too hard to please someone and practice letting go Accept that someone will always be disappointed by your decisions—and that's okay Remember that while you can "let them" with adults, parenting requires appropriate guidance and boundaries with children See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

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