Nice Guys Finish First
In the secular world, there's a saying: "Nice guys finish last." It means that in a competitive society, those who are kind, generous, and honest get taken advantage of, while the shrewd and aggressive people come out on top. But we do not live in a competitive world. We live in HaShem's world. And in His world, the "nice guys" finish first. We may not see how right away, but without a doubt, every act of kindness, every ounce of integrity, every moment of self-restraint is noticed, cherished, and rewarded by HaShem. A businessman once shared that he lost out on a very big deal because he refused to use dishonest tactics that were considered "standard practice" in his industry. His competitors laughed at him, saying, "See? Nice guys finish last." But years later, those very same competitors went bankrupt, tangled in endless lawsuits over their shady dealings. He, on the other hand, was blessed with steady success, peace of mind, and the respect of all who dealt with him. Looking back, he said: "The minute I walked away from dishonesty, I didn't lose a deal. I gained HaShem's partnership." HaShem's accounting is not like ours. Sometimes it looks like we're losing, but in truth we are setting ourselves up for blessings far greater than what we could have ever imagined. If someone chooses to be the "nice guy" — if he holds back his anger, forgives, lets another person go first, or does the right thing even though it costs him money — he becomes more beloved to HaShem and will surely gain from that. And HaShem's dividends in this world are not always in money. They can come as health, family harmony, or yeshu'ot in ways we could never anticipate. A man once told me he was listening to a class about someone who forgave a person who had wronged him — and immediately after, a relative of his was healed from a long illness. This listener thought of his own father, who was in the hospital and in desperate need of a yeshu'ah. He himself had been wronged and lost a tremendous amount of money, and he carried that resentment for many years. But in that moment, inspired by the story, he decided to let go. He picked up the phone, called the man who had wronged him, and made peace. He said it was one of the hardest things he ever did — but just a half hour later, his father woke up! Another man told me that a tenant of his left something valuable behind in the apartment he had rented. The next tenants found it, but when the previous tenants came to pick it up, they couldn't locate it — it seemed to have gone missing. The previous tenant told the landlord, "That's considered negligence, and they (the new tenants) should compensate me." Wanting to avoid machloket, the landlord called the current tenant and said he would personally pay the previous tenant and tell him it was from him. The current tenant replied, "No — I want to pay," and they actually went back and forth over who would have the zechut to pay in order to avoid machloket. Minutes later, someone called to say they had accidentally taken the item from the house and were already on their way to bring it back. The landlord said, "In the zechut of us trying to go over and above to avoid machloket, HaShem brought the item back." Another story: A man used to buy cars at auctions and resell them. Once, at an auction, there was an incredible deal. His friend and competitor was there too. Out of generosity, he offered the deal to his competitor. The competitor declined and insisted that he should take it. He bought the car, sold it for a major profit — and then, amazingly, the buyer sold it back to him at a lower price. He resold it again for an even larger profit. He said: "There was so much blessing in that car because I offered it to my competitor first." It is not always this obvious. In this world, it might look like the aggressive person wins. But such victories are fleeting. Wealth, power, and influence can vanish in an instant. What lasts forever are mitzvot, acts of kindness, and the emunah we show in HaShem. In HaShem's world, the "nice guys" don't just finish first — they never finish at all. Their reward lives on forever.
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