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We’ve spent the last three episodes talking about our goal setting process and now it’s time to get to the most important part -- ACTION. We’ve given each other permission to hold us accountable to our goals. But to make sure this doesn’t turn into nagging, we have built some structure around how we will hold ourselves & each other accountable to our 2019 goals. We share more about our Action + Accountability plan, our regular check-ins, and structured work sessions. You can grab your own copy of our Action + Accountability Plan at bashleymoyer.com/action.  Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: The key document we created to hold ourselves accountable to our goals In a spreadsheet, we track our goals, start/end dates, who is responsible, and important notes Grab yours at bashleymoyer.com/action How goals and action go hand in hand Action is what makes goals different than resolutions The importance of giving your partner permission to hold you accountable to your goals This isn’t permission to nag! Our two methods for getting stuff done - regular check ins & scheduled work sessions What we talk about in our regular check ins Daily - where we discuss immediate needs & actions, allows us to make sure we working on our goals every single day Weekly - scheduled on calendar, a time to regroup & revisit our Action + Accountability plan (link) and figure out who is working on what for the next week Monthly- where we get a bit more strategical, determine what tweaks (or pivot) we need Quarterly- more of a retreat like (link) check in, a time to hit the reset button Each check-in we zoom out a bit more and take a look at the big picture Giving you all permission to hold us accountable to our goals Once a quarter, we will come back on the podcast and give you all an update on our progress to our goals Some of our personal tactics to hold ourselves accountable as individuals For Billy, this is a habit tracker or 1-31 tracking list For Ashley, this is worksheets that are personally designed with key questions and reminders

Taking time away to plan for a new year is really important for us. But we understand that not everyone does it! That’s why in this episode, we’re sharing more about our 2019 planning retreat. We explain the decisions leading into us taking time away (versus staying home), our agenda for the 3 days, and how we turned goals into a timeline. It's was a time for us to relax, reflect on 2018, and set our goals and intentions for the new year.  Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: Why every set of partners should go on a retreat The prep work required to go on a retreat with your partner The deciding factors that led us to pick Lakeway Resort & Spa for our retreat What made us plan for a three day retreat The homework we gave ourselves Our first night’s agenda Prioritizing our conversation around our marriage, relationship, and personal needs That vulnerability really opens you up for some powerful conversations The one question that set the tone for the next day: Is this podcast a hobby or do we want to build a business? (Spoiler alert: a business) The questions we asked ourselves to move this from hobby to business Identifying who we have connected with the most through this podcast and social media What we want to get out of our business together The need to separate while on a retreat to focus on personal goals You’ll hear how Ashley wanted to start over on her list Coming back together to discuss personal goals and identifying goals that we need to set together to be successful The number of goals we find manageable for a year Moving our goals into action plans

Another year come and gone! Last week (EP #24) we reflected back on 2018, the highs and lows. In this week’s episode, we are focusing on the goals we are setting for ourselves in 2019. We’re sharing what we plan to do in our 9-5s, our work together, individually and even some other goals we have together. Let us know how we can help you with all your goals for the new year! Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked about in this Episode: The thing we are most looking forward to in 2019 For Ashley, this is her sister’s wedding For Billy, it's all of the travel we have scheduled for 2019 including… a bachelorette/bachelor party for Ashley’s sister and future husband Ashley’s goal to work more efficiently especially, turning off the TV when working from home Our individual goals to be a better spouse to one another For Billy, this is getting more vulnerable and opening up about his feelings For Ashley, this is being a better listener and speaking to Billy in his love language How learning is always a goal of ours Billy is challenging himself to read a book a week, Ashley is a book a month Ashley constantly listening to podcasts, but Billy’s goal is to listen to at least one a week Our desire to attend conferences in areas we can still learn in Billy’s desire to take a finance course and Ashley's want to journal more Our work goals How we are prioritizing our involvement in the community Embracing the learning opportunities and the opportunities to mentor others Being the board member our commitments need and deserve The relationships Billy is working on repairing and the one he is letting go Our desire to keep improving our health and wellness Our financial goals How we plan to go all in on our online community Our goal to build an online course How we want to connect with more couples working together Our desire to write a book together How we plan to deliver constant and consistent content to you every week Our process for setting annual goals together

2018 quite literally started off with a bang. And not in a good way. In this episode, we discuss our best moments in 2018 and those not so great moments. Rather than just giving the Instagram highlight reel, we dig a bit deeper and share the lessons we learned throughout the year. We’ve had so many great and challenging experiences this year and are so grateful for each one for everything we have learned. Stay tuned for Part II, where we will Look Forward to 2019. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked about in this Episode: Carrying too many distractions into 2018 and the result managing a car accident at a terrible time resetting financial goals Our accomplishments in the community For Billy, this was serving as the Chair of a board of directors For Ashley, this was a special recognition she received Our travels and our favorite trip of the year -- Rome! Ashley’s first intercontinental trip Experiencing a different culture Our health journey What caused it How we kick-started healthier eating habits The need for more of a challenge Ashley operated in cruise control throughout most of the year Procrastinating on several committees out of familiarity How our work together has satisfied our need for a challenge Facilitated programs & hosting corporate workshops   We learned so much about each other and ourselves We’ve learned to meet each other where we are

The holidays are here! For many couples, ‘tis is the season to compromise. Deciding where to be for the big holidays was one of the hardest conversations we had early in our relationship. There was some tears and there was some yelling, but we have learned that compromise is key. That’s why in this week’s episode we are digging a little deeper into that early conversation, sharing a few other ways we compromise, and providing a few tips for you to keep in mind the next time you are struggling to reach a compromise. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked about in this Episode: The inspiration for this episode - the holidays! ...and managing expectations for family get-togethers How we started the conversation of dividing the holidays What the non-negotiables were for each of us Creating more win-win situations Where we have combined our families for even bigger & greater celebrations Billy’s Grinch-like feelings about holiday get-togethers Other areas of our relationship that require compromise Billy’s desire to live in different neighborhoods in Austin Selling our second car & continuing to share one car Not compromising on our values, clearly communicating Compromise is not easy, but get easier by Picking your battles Keeping an open-mind Seeking to understand Communicating with your partner