More Human More Kind: Supportive Ally Tips for Parents of LGBTQ Teens

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Do you find yourself trying to “fix” everything for your LGBTQ child only to watch them shut down and pull away?
In this episode, I dive into the hidden trap many loving, well-meaning parents fall into: the urge to manage, smooth over, and solve instead of validate and connect. You’ll learn how this instinct, though rooted in love, can unintentionally block trust, and what to do instead.
Discover why the instinct to fix often feels like rejection to LGBTQ teens
Learn the key differences between support and control and how fear disguises itself as help
Get simple, grounding language that builds emotional safety and deepens connection fast

If you’re ready to move from fear to inclusion and become the kind of ally your child truly needs, press play now and start shifting from fixer to safe space.
Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!
Learn how to create your own blueprint to build trust and connection with yourself and your teen!
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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and foster courageous, compassionate connection.
If you’re in the thick of parenting, allyship, or pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action.
Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey.
More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast and space where a mom and mental health advocate offers guidance on parenting with empathy, inclusion, and open-minded allyship, fostering growth, healing, and empowerment within the LGBTQ community—including lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer individuals—while...

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Is your teen unusually quiet, withdrawn, or different, and you’re wondering what’s really going on beneath the surface?
For many LGBTQ teens, the process of coming out begins in total silence, long before they have the words to express who they are. In this powerful episode, Heather Hester shares essential guidance for parents to recognize what’s really happening, and how to become a true ally before a single word is spoken.
Learn the 9 subtle signs your LGBTQ teen may be struggling with identity and what those signals really mean
Discover how to respond with calm presence, so your child feels emotionally safe and supported
Become the inclusive parent and ally your teen needs during the silent phase of coming out

If you’re ready to show up with inclusion, guidance, and love, even in silence, press play now and take your first step toward being the ally your teen is hoping for.
Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!
Learn how to create your own blueprint to build trust and connection with yourself and your teen!
Invite me to speak at your workshop or event
Receive a free excerpt and reflection guide from my book, Parenting with Pride.
Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review!
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Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday!
At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and foster courageous, compassionate connection.
If you’re in the thick of parenting, allyship, or pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action.
Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey.
More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast and space where a mom and mental health advocate offers guidance on parenting with empathy, inclusion, and open-minded allyship, fostering growth, healing, and empowerment within the LGBTQ community—including lesbian,...

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You love your LGBTQ child fiercely, so why do you still have thoughts that terrify you?
Thoughts you’d never say out loud.
Thoughts that make you question if you’re a good parent at all.
This episode brings those hidden fears into the light, gently and without judgment.
In this raw and healing episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester talks directly to parents who are trying to show up with love… while secretly battling shame, fear, and doubt.
You’ll learn:
Why your brain creates “dark” thoughts when your child comes out
How internalized fear and cultural conditioning shape your parenting response
Why mental health and emotional regulation are essential in LGBTQ parenting
How shame harms your relationship even when left unspoken
The truth about what kind of ally your child actually needs

This is the episode to listen to if you’ve ever thought:
“What if I mess this up?”“Why can’t I just be okay with this already?”“What’s wrong with me?”The truth? Nothing is wrong with you. You’re not broken.
You’re a parent trying to unlearn generations of fear and step into open-minded, practical allyship.
And that process takes empathy, not perfection.
Listen now to release the shame that’s been holding you back from deeper connection with your LGBTQ child.
Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!
Learn how to create your own blueprint to build trust and connection with yourself and your teen!
Invite me to speak at your workshop or event
Receive a free excerpt and reflection guide from my book, Parenting with Pride.
Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review!
Connect [email protected]
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Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday!
At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people...

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Does the start of a new year feel heavy instead of hopeful? Are you tired, overwhelmed, or carrying a kind of sadness you can't quite name? If you're a parent of an LGBTQ+ teen, this episode is your reminder that nothing is wrong with you, your body, your mind, and your heart are simply asking to be heard.
In today’s deeply grounding episode of More Human, More Kind, Heather Hester gently explores the emotional aftermath of the holidays and why so many parents, especially those parenting LGBTQ+ kids, feel grief instead of motivation in January.
You’ll learn:
Why grief and hope can coexist (and must)
How mental health is impacted by unacknowledged stress and survival mode
What January grief really looks and feels like (hint: it’s not always tears)
Why emotional support for parents is essential, not optional
Five simple, research-backed practices to help you feel lighter

This isn’t about pushing through or forcing joy. It’s about understanding the very real mental and emotional cost of caregiving, advocacy, and parenting LGBTQ+ teens in a world that often asks too much.
Heather offers a message of healing, empathy, and deep parental self-trust, helping you move from silent bracing to honest presence.
Listen now to validate your experience and learn one small shift that can lighten your emotional load.
Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!
Learn how to create your own blueprint to build trust and connection with yourself and your teen!
Invite me to speak at your workshop or event
Receive a free excerpt and reflection guide from my book, Parenting with Pride.
Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review!
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Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday!
At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and foster courageous, compassionate connection.
If you’re in the thick of parenting,...

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If you've ever thought, "They're too young to know," or hoped your child might “grow out of it,” this episode is a must-listen. What feels like caution or protection may actually be causing deep harm to your child’s mental health, identity, and your relationship with them.
Many well-meaning parents hold back, fearing they’ll say the wrong thing or wishing this is “just a phase.” But this hesitation can cause real damage. LGBTQ+ youth need love, inclusion, and validation, not silence or delay. In this episode, Heather Hester offers trauma-informed guidance and practical insight into why affirming your child now is essential. You'll hear:
How cultural conditioning can cloud your instincts as a parent
What the science actually says about when kids know their gender identity
The link between family invalidation and increased mental health risks for LGBTQ+ youth

You’re not a bad parent for struggling; you're human. But staying stuck in outdated beliefs is not the path to healing, empathy, or true allyship. Your LGBTQ+ child needs you to be their fiercest advocate and protector, especially in a world that often doesn’t feel safe. This episode will help you shift from fear to fierce, from uncertainty to open-minded support.
Listen now and reflect with courage and compassion!
Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!
Learn how to create your own blueprint to build trust and connection with yourself and your teen!
Invite me to speak at your workshop or event
Receive a free excerpt and reflection guide from my book, Parenting with Pride.
Share More Human. More Kind. Please subscribe, rate, and review!
Connect [email protected]
Buy Me A Coffee
Watch on YouTube
Listen to *NEW* episodes every Tuesday and Friday!
At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and foster courageous, compassionate connection.
If you’re in the thick of...