Coming Up for Air

Do you ever feel like you'd quite like to meet someone, but the thought of actually dating makes you want to stay single indefinitely?
You want the relationship, but you don't particularly want the awkward first dates, the endless conversations, the uncertainty or the effort of getting to know somebody who might not go anywhere.
In this episode, I am getting into why dating can feel so unappealing when you genuinely want to meet someone. Have you become too quick to dismiss people? Are you expecting an instant connection with somebody you've known for two hours? And are you really leaving things to fate, or have you made it practically impossible for anyone to come into your life?
I will also talk about the uncomfortable difference between being open to a relationship and actually being willing to meet people, why dating can start to feel like a second job, and how to approach it differently without forcing yourself onto the apps or settling for someone you don't particularly like.
Because maybe the question isn't whether you want a relationship. Maybe it's whether you're willing to go through the process of finding one.
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I spent so much time trying to understand why my relationship ended that I barely stopped to think about what it was doing to me.
In this episode, I am talking about the obsession with finding answers after a breakup. Replaying conversations, questioning memories, analysing your ex's behaviour and convincing yourself that if you could just understand why they left, you'd finally be able to move on.
But what happens when every answer leads to another question? And what if understanding your breakup isn't actually the thing that's going to help you recover?
An honest conversation about heartbreak, self-blame, closure and learning to live with questions you might never get answers to.
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There are things I did during my breakup that I would be absolutely mortified to admit now. So naturally, I've decided to discuss them on a podcast. 
After my 14-year relationship ended, I entered an era of questionable decisions, complete delusion and behaviour that I genuinely thought was perfectly reasonable at the time.
In this episode, I'm confessing some of my most embarrassing breakup moments, from the things I convinced myself of to the things my poor friends had to endure, alongside five truly unhinged breakup confessions from other people.
A slightly different episode of Coming Up For Air, because sometimes healing means being able to look back and think... darling, what on EARTH were you doing? ❤️ 

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Sometimes the hardest part of a breakup isn't just what happened between the two of you. It's dealing with everybody else's version of what happened afterwards.
The unwanted updates about your ex. Friends telling you what you should do. People comparing how you're both getting on. The gossip, the opinions and that horrible feeling that because you were the one who openly struggled, everybody assumes you're the one who's doing worse.
I know this feeling particularly well.
I was incredibly open about how much the end of my fourteen-year relationship broke me, and in this episode, I want to talk about something I've learnt since: being honest about your heartbreak doesn't mean you owe everybody an explanation of how you're recovering from it.
I talk about how to handle hearing things about your ex without reacting, why other people's advice isn't always right for you, how to stop participating in comparisons you never agreed to, and why you don't need to prove you're happy just because people witnessed you being devastated.
A conversation about protecting your own experience of a breakup from becoming everybody else's business.
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Sometimes the relationship ends, but the consequences of being in it don't.
The job opportunities you turned down, the money you invested, the places you never moved to and the decisions you made because you thought you were building a future with somebody.
In this episode, I'm talking about the less discussed consequences of a breakup. The practical, financial and personal sacrifices that can continue affecting your life long after you've stopped wanting the relationship back.
We'll explore how to deal with the regret of decisions that made sense at the time, the frustration of having to rebuild things you thought you'd already established and how to stop making choices around a life that no longer exists.
Because you can be completely over somebody and still be paying for the decisions you made when you loved them.

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