Burnt Pancakes: Momversations | Conversations for Imperfect Moms, Chats About Mom Life & Interviews with Real Mamas

What if one of the hardest parts of parenting isn’t figuring out how to control our kids’ behavior, emotions, and choices… but learning to let go of that control?
In this episode, I’m talking with writer and mother Anya Jensen about her philosophy of detachment parenting.
Anya found herself struggling with the emotional demands of parenting teenagers and the growing tension in her relationship with her daughter. She eventually realized that some of her heartache came from trying to control things that were never actually hers to control.
We talk about what detachment parenting really means, why moms can feel responsible for their kids’ emotions, and how we can love our children deeply without taking on every emotion, problem, or disappointment they experience.
And while Anya’s work focuses heavily on teenagers, I think this idea applies to motherhood at every stage: We can support our kids without trying to control them.
In this episode, we talk about:
 What “detachment parenting” actually means 
 Why moms feel responsible for their kids’ emotions 
 The emotional exhaustion that can come with parenting teenagers 
 Learning to accept the limits of our influence 
 Parenting our kids without trying to give them the childhood we wish we had 
 What detachment can look like in everyday parenting 
 Loving our kids without losing ourselves 
Connect with Anya:
Tiktok: @detachmentparenting
Substack: Notes by Anya
YouTube: Notes by Anya
The takeaway: Detachment doesn’t mean caring less. Sometimes it means learning to love our kids while letting them have their own feelings, make their own choices, and become their own people.

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖  Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓  FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

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This is a Throwback episode from September 2024. I sit down with Brenda Ridgely, an author and podcast host, to discuss reclaiming individuality and fostering deep, meaningful friendships amidst the demands of motherhood and professional life.

Brenda shares her personal journey through midlife discontent and offers valuable insights on how to overcome the silent epidemic of losing one's sense of self. Together, we explore the importance of genuine connections beyond superficial social media interactions and the challenges of making and maintaining friendships while managing family and career responsibilities.

Brenda's practical advice on creating empowering friendship circles will help you rediscover your identity and combat loneliness.

In this conversation, we also delve into the concept of building your personal tribe as adults. Discover the significance of having a core group of close friends, the importance of local connections, and the necessity of stepping out of your comfort zone to meet new people.

Brenda provides practical tips for transforming casual friendships into deeper, more meaningful connections and emphasizes the value of one-on-one time. Whether you're an introvert or extrovert, busy mom, or career woman, this episode offers strategic advice for fostering connections, rediscovering past interests, and designing your ideal tribe to bring the right people into your life.

Listen in and find out how to build and nurture empowering female friendships that will support you through all stages of life.

You can find more about Brenda on her
Website https://www.brendaridgley.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendaridgley/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC73PSKAWMaEvXS0SaH7NDaA

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖  Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓  FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

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Giving birth is one of the biggest and most unpredictable experiences of motherhood. We spend so much time preparing for the baby, setting up the nursery, buying tiny clothes, and reading about newborn sleep, but how much time do we really spend preparing for labor and delivery?
In today's episode I sit down with Gina Mundy, a childbirth attorney, bestselling author, speaker, podcaster, and mom of three. Gina has spent more than 23 years analyzing labor and delivery cases to better understand why birth injuries happen and what families can do to become more informed and prepared.
This conversation isn't about creating fear around childbirth. It's about helping expecting parents understand that preparation can provide knowledge, confidence, and a greater sense of calm when entering the delivery room.
In this episode, we discuss:
 What expecting moms often don't know about labor and delivery until it's too late 
 What Gina has learned from more than 23 years of reviewing childbirth cases 
 Common patterns surrounding birth injuries and birth trauma 
 How to prepare for labor beyond simply creating a birth plan 
 Why understanding the labor process can help parents feel calmer and more informed 
 How to ask questions and participate in decisions about your care 
 Ways moms can advocate for themselves without feeling like they need to know everything 
 How to prepare for the unexpected while still feeling empowered about birth 
 The biggest takeaway Gina hopes every expecting mother learns before going into labor 
Whether you're pregnant with your first baby, preparing for another birth, or know someone who is expecting, this episode offers an important conversation about feeling informed, supported, and prepared for the delivery room.
Connect with Gina:
https://www.tiktok.com/@ginacmundy?lang=en
https://www.instagram.com/ginamundy/
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100093989808329
https://www.linkedin.com/in/gina-mundy-70318554/
https://www.youtube.com/@thechildbirthattorney
www.ginamundy.com

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖  Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓  FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

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At what point do you officially realize you’re getting old? Is it when a 7:00 movie suddenly feels way too late? When you start saying, “They don’t make music like they used to”? Or when you’re out on a walk and hear a bird and immediately tell your husband to pull out his bird identification app?
In this  episode I share all the signs that my husband and I may have officially entered our “old” era.
From Jake's unexpected love of birds, history biographies, nonfiction, and researching vacuums our their collection of vitamins and  inability to commit to a movie that ends after 9:30, getting older is starting to look a lot different than we expected.
Katie also shares the hilarious results of our Spotify ages. 
But despite the bird apps, early bedtimes, vacuum research, vitamins, and throwback playlists, there’s something really great about this stage of life. Because even though we might be getting older, we can still feel young and maybe getting older just means becoming more comfortable enjoying exactly what we enjoy.
In this episode, we talk about:
 The moment Katie realized she and Jake might officially be old 
 How Jake unexpectedly became a bird person 
 Why a 7:00 movie now feels dangerously late 
 Saying “They don’t make music like they used to” and realizing the music from high school is almost 30 years old 
 Jake's surprising obsession with researching vacuums 
 The growing collection of vitamins in their house 
 Jake's Spotify age being in his 60s thanks to history, biographies, and nonfiction 
 Why Katie’s Spotify age was around 16 because her boys hijacked her account 
 Why getting older doesn’t necessarily mean feeling old 
 Finding the humor and joy in this stage of marriage and life 
Question for you: What was the moment you realized you were officially getting old? Was it getting excited about a new appliance? Going to bed early? Complaining about today’s music? Or having strong opinions about your thermostat?

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖  Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓  FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

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In this episode I sit down with maternal and women’s health practitioner Toni Curtis for an honest conversation about birth, postpartum recovery, maternal advocacy, and letting go of the idea that there is one “right” way to give birth.
Toni shares her own traumatic first birth experience, when her concerns and requests were ignored and she suffered a hemorrhage that nearly took her life. That experience led her to dedicate nearly 30 years to helping other women have more support, information, and agency throughout pregnancy, birth, and postpartum.
We discuss why so many women feel like they have “failed” when their birth doesn't go according to plan, what moms really need to know before entering the delivery room, and how to speak up when you feel like you're not being heard.
They also get into the realities of postpartum recovery that many women aren't prepared for, navigating expectations around breastfeeding, and why your birth story—no matter how it unfolds—does not determine your worth as a mother.
In This Episode, We Discuss:
 Toni's traumatic first birth and how it shaped her life's work 
 Why no birth experience makes you a failure 
 The pressure and expectations surrounding birth plans 
 What every pregnant woman should know before going into labor 
 How to advocate for yourself when you feel unheard 
 What to do when you disagree with your medical team 
 Why postpartum recovery deserves more preparation and attention 
 The realities of breastfeeding and letting go of shame 
 How Toni's maternal health model is improving outcomes for moms 
 The most important message Toni wants every pregnant mom to hear 
Connect with Toni Curtis:
https://birthwisedoulas.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/company/BirthWiseDoulas
https://www.youtube.com/@birthwisedoulas
https://www.instagram.com/birthwisedoulas_/

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖  Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓  FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

Some episodes include affiliate links at no cost to you.